I need some advice please. I have been with my husband for over ten years, married for most of that. We have had some arguments over the years but nothing much. Recently it has got so much worse. He confessed when pushed that he blames me for everything that he wants to improve in his own life. We talked about how irrational this is and he said he understood that and wanted to move forward. We had a nice afternoon out but then he turned very nasty after some drinks. All calm now but I don’t know how the hell we got here or what to do, this is not my life.