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My husband is horrible to me

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ForgetMeNot0 · 26/08/2019 13:12

We haven't even been married a year, but I'm sick of the way my husband treats me. He shouts at me all the time, and calls me anything under the sun. Today he's called me a 'fcking idiot' and a stupid cnt' . I have to deal with this on a daily basis. I do call him things back in a rage but he just gets worse. He shouts at me, gets up close in my face and pointing his finger when he does it.

Anything sets him off. I'm just sick of it.

We sleep in separate bedrooms, whenever we try to sleep together he starts shouting at me for turning or making noise breathing. We rarely have sex, he has erectile problems and can't ejaculate.

We never spend time together unless we are going to the supermarket. If I want to go out and spend a nice day together he tells me to just go myself, and that I shouldn't need him to entertain me. He spends his evenings and weekends watching tv series or films on his computer in his room. He does no exercise and is eating junk food everyday, putting on weight before my eyes. We never sit together and eat dinner or watch telly.

I'm miserable but see no way out. We have a mortgage together, and I can't afford to live alone anywhere around here. I have no family or friends that I could stay with. I've resigned myself to just being unhappy and taking every day as it comes, and having more of a 'housemate' relationship with him. It's just bloody depressing Sad

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 26/08/2019 13:16

Can't you sell the house and split the money? Start afresh on your own? How old are you?

Ilikethisone · 26/08/2019 13:18

Do not stick with it. A marriage can be undone.

Has this only started since you got married?

Bodear · 26/08/2019 13:19

Wouldn’t you be better with an actual housemate than him?

Daffodil2018 · 26/08/2019 13:19

He sounds dreadful and your relationship does not sound like it will get back on track. It might feel like there's no escape but you can leave him. You need to start making a plan. Money is the main thing. Do you have a job? Can you put some money aside each month for personal savings?

Topseyt · 26/08/2019 13:23

You do need out of this. He is showing you how your life is going to be going forward now. He is at best verbally and emotionally abusive, and it may escalate.

Contact Women's Aid for advice and support on how to get out.

Do you work? Do you have access to finances or has he kept that for himself too?

AgentJohnson · 26/08/2019 13:36

It’s time to start making plans. No one is going to rescue you but there is support out there so you can help yourself.

Bumbags · 26/08/2019 13:40

Just get rid of him

He sounds nasty.

Nautiloid · 26/08/2019 13:40

How long have you been together and when did he change?

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