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Is this funny or weird?

26 replies

User221stars · 26/08/2019 09:45

Tried to make the heading a bit general in case this person in the post is on here...

Ok so I’ve dated someone 4 times, spoken in between. Said he was 37 on his profile. He tells me on Friday over dinner that he’s actually 44. When asked why he lied he said he’s only dating people up to age 35 as he wants children. Women under 35 may not be interested if he said his real age apparently. For some reason this part annoyed me the most and I reminded him women over 35 can have children.

Is this weird? A red flag? I don’t know how to feel about it. I’m 32 if that makes any difference.

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SignedUpJust4This · 26/08/2019 10:00

So was he planning on reeling in a 25yr old, having kids with her and never revealing his true age? He's a dick.

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User221stars · 26/08/2019 10:02

He said he was always going to tell me/whoever early on.

Not sure exactly what his search criteria was but it is at the lowest 30, maybe lower, I don’t actually know. I don’t like that he lied.

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cranstonmanor · 26/08/2019 10:02

He lies to get his way, how do you feel about that?

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User221stars · 26/08/2019 10:03

signedup he said he was always going to tell me. Although it came up on Friday because I asked when his birthday was

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AppleKatie · 26/08/2019 10:04

He doesn’t want to date a real person. He wants a baby machine.

So no second date from me.

Grim.

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User221stars · 26/08/2019 10:04

crans I don’t know it’s shit isn’t it? I felt like an idiot though I know it’s not my fault.

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User221stars · 26/08/2019 10:04

This was the third date

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0lga · 26/08/2019 10:04

So he lies when it suits him to get women to date him. Women who would not do so if they knew the truth.

Nice Hmm .

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User221stars · 26/08/2019 10:05

He’s said he wants a family and that’s why. I’m annoyed!!!

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cranstonmanor · 26/08/2019 10:06

Well if you accept his disception then he knows you'll accept more lies.

HollowTalk · 26/08/2019 10:06

Ugh on so many levels. Get out while you can.

cranstonmanor · 26/08/2019 10:07

It's fine to want a family, not fine to lie to get it. And women can have kids over 35. Besides, he could have started a family whe he was in his thirties, but for some reason I think he was probably dating even younger women at the time.

0lga · 26/08/2019 10:08

If he’s just a poor misunderstood guy who wants a family, why doesn’t he say on his profile that he’s 44 and wants to have kids?

He’s shown you what kind of man he is OP. You have fair warning that he will lie and deceive you too, if you go on dating him.

WhisperingInTheDark · 26/08/2019 10:09

Fuck that.

I've been on a date with a 44 year old who openly told me he is interested in having children someday. He knows I'm late 30s, too. There's no reason to lie about your age if you're interested in a serious relationship (and I'd class wanting children with someone serious...)

Get rid, OP. Tell him why.

SignedUpJust4This · 26/08/2019 10:31

And he didn't tell you straight away! It was 3rd date only because you asked! Lying prick. Probably thought he could pass for younger.

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User221stars · 26/08/2019 10:50

I think when he told me I actually felt a bit sorry for him!! I don’t know what I was thinking. I made a big point of saying women don’t just stop having children age 35. That part really got to me actually.

But the way he explained it was like he wanted a family and how could he have it if he dated older women and that was why he had to change his age.

He could pass for mid thirties easily which is probably why he does it.

I agree that he could have told me weeks ago especially as we have chatted on the phone between dates.

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User221stars · 26/08/2019 10:51

Though to be honest, the fact he even lied at all on the profile would have made me just as annoyed I thjnk

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ravenmum · 26/08/2019 10:57

Women under 35 may not be interested if he said his real age
But they will be interested in a liar? Hahahahaha.

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User221stars · 26/08/2019 11:33

Crazy isn’t it!!

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SignedUpJust4This · 26/08/2019 15:19

Maybe he does want kids but I think if he was being honest the real reason for lying is because he thinks he looks younger than he is so he 'deserves' someone younger. That seems to be the logic of most men on OLD

funnylittlefloozie · 26/08/2019 15:27

And if he lies about his age, what else is he lying about?

Worgust · 26/08/2019 15:30

So he showed you really early on that he has no problem with out and out lying in order to get his own way.

Thumbs up 👍🏼 you don’t have to waste any more time.

PositiveVibez · 26/08/2019 15:30

So he's got to the age of 44, wants kids, but no woman he has been with so far, wanted to have his children.

Speaks volumes imho.

cubed123 · 26/08/2019 15:31

Wow, what else is he lying about? Doesn’t he realise how unfair that is on the women he’s dating? They have a search criteria too for a reason! Uggghhh

Worgust · 26/08/2019 15:31

Just read the thread title again, I don’t think it’s funny OR weird Confused. Just dishonest.

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