I fully appreciate that this is only my perspective on matters, but I can't understand why my wife of 20+ years keeps things from me and blatantly lies to me, almost everyday.
It can be trivial things like "I texted you to say that I was going to be late", and the she disappears for hours saying "just popping out for a minute." She never tells me where she is going and if I ask she is evasive and vague. She lies about how much she earns, how much things cost, she cashed in a policy and then lied to me that she'd done it for months. Her parents gave her money and she lied about that. She always kept things from me about our kids, particularly schooling.
When I ask her about things she accuses me of being needy. I always thought that marriage was a partnership where we supported each other and carried the burden and triumphs of life together - it appears not. I know that this sounds like playing to the crowd, but I am good husband - I work (2 jobs) and do nearly all of the housework. We have no debts and I don't drink, gamble, or put me before my wife or family. She is the only woman I have ever loved and her dishonesty is breaking my heart. It's like I don't know what to believe anymore.