Dh and I separated earlier this year due to his complete inability to communicate with me or engage in family life. We have since had counselling, he’s opened up about a lot of things and we’re giving it another go. But he’s driving me mad and I don’t think he’s going to change.
He works away Mon-Fri. I have dc (7 and 3) full time and am a sahm. But he just doesn’t seem to understand that I might know a bit more about the dc’s than him. For example last night due to my dsis coming over dc’s went to bed late. Dsis arrived at 6.30ish and from 7pm onwards Dh was making a fuss about them having to go to bed or they’d be a nightmare the next day. I’ve been away with them all week and they’ve been staying up until 9ish then having a lie in. I tell Dh they’ll be fine and have a lie in, they’re not tired yet, they can stay up late as they haven’t seen dsis in months. Dh still insisting they’ll be a nightmare the next day, he can’t relax knowing the next day will be ruined etc. I give in at 8ish and spend the next hour trying to get them to sleep, missing seeing dsis as she’s sat downstairs in her own. Dh won’t put them to bed as they just scream for me and he gets in a huff.
I’ve tried encouraging him to do more with the dc or just stick it out when they ask for me. I’ve tried to gently tell him what the kids need/ like/ can/ can’t do but he always just knows best as their his kids too. It was his decision to work away and we discussed how it would impact on his relationship with dc.
I don’t know what to do. I find it really disrespectful that he thinks I don’t know anything about the dc I spend my whole life with. I don’t know if I’m just getting pissed off with him for no reason.
Sorry, not sure why I wrote this post. Just wanted to vent really.