I met my DP over 2 years ago while I was visiting family in Nz. We clicked and got on so we’ll. We kept in contact when I returned home and 5 months later I returned for 3 months and we became an item while I was there. I came home and he followed me over a couple of months later and stayed for over a year. Unfortunately he has returned home, he didn’t settle here. It’s quiet, there isn’t much to do apart from walks and the weather was not great. He’s very outdoorsy and loves doing activities. He’s such a kind man and loving and I’m lost without him since he left. I get why he didn’t settle, when I went over to Nz it was a completely different lifestyle (which I loved). He is eager for me to come out there and give it a try. I’ve met all his family and they are lovely and supportive of us and encouraged him to move here initially to see if he liked it. My parents are elderly and in good health but they’d be very disappointed in me if I left. I am mid 30’s and he’s early 30’s. They really like him and found him very nice. I have a good job, which I don’t particularly love but it pays very well. It would be strange to have to look at getting work elsewhere.It’s quite specialized so it’s not something I could do over there. I think my parents would be devestated if I left although I can take a career break. We’ve spoke about having kids and he said he would love to have them with me at some stage. Im just so confused on what to do. Do I follow my heart but disappoint everyone at home? I have good friends but don’t see them that often anymore due to them having kids etc. I’m very alone and I feel everyone else has their shit together and I’m still up in the air. I don’t have a mortgage or any loans either. I’m quite a logical thinker do in my head I think of the worst outcomes and if it doesn’t work out I’d be older and have to start looking for someone else if I wanted to have children. My brain feels scrambled! Has anyone any advice for me or any experience with this? Thanks for reading!