Feeling unloved and lonely.

[justamum15]

I feel so alone even though I'm not alone. I'm married and I have twins.

My sister is my best friend and she has recently got a boyfriend. I am happy for her as she needs to find her own life but she hardly messages me now. She says she's moving away to live in a better place with him and I can't help but feel a little hurt and dumped. It sounds so childish and I obviously want her to be happy but I feel like crap.

I agree with everything she says - it's so difficult to make friends here. People just aren't friendly and are born and bred here. You're either in or you're out. People don't like to invite people in.

My husband doesn't have any friends and just seems so passive in life. He doesn't have any ideas about what to do - holidays to take etc. He doesn't seem bothered about spending time as a family.

I just feel so unloved right now.

Hello

From your username I can see you have been dealing with a couple things here. For one you are not just a mum even though this is an extremely important job and I'm sure it's damn hard work but you got this !! You are a woman first and foremost you are a sister a daughter and many other brilliant titles. I'm sorry that you may have lost some faith in yourself over sometime now but try practising some self love I'm sure you can squeeze in some time for yourself. The first step is asking for help and here you are you did it. It's difficult reaching out sometimes. Your sister sounds very important to you and that's great we always want our loved ones to be happy right even if we are not?
Be honest with her tell her how you're feeling maybe even show her this post if it's easier. You obviously care and love your sister but this is not about her it's about you not being completely satisfied with where you are. But these things a temporary you can always move house move job move country even or just move a town over to start! (Baby steps!) It all seems so scary and hard work but it pays. Make a plan if money is a problem save up work it out cut back on things ask for help ask for support. This place doesn't seem to be working so make that a priority in your life make a change. Small steps at first to not overwhelm but then take that leap you seem to need ! Your husband seems like he's having the same issue but yet you're both feeling alone. You were once I'm sure just friends at some point try getting back to that bring back some of that love and care. Men usually don't tell us ladies what they're thinking and keep it bottled up. Having no friends as a man must be incredibly difficult just like having just your sister as your friend is hard as in life you need a community and friends who else are you going to moan to about your husband and sister !!! We all need a release try working on that relationship with your husband firstly because he is meant to be your friend and your partner.
You start making some plans of your own ! Family trips or holidays just make the plan and bring your husband along for the ride !! He's probably forgotten how to have fun so a little push might be necessary!

Good luck,

Abigail

Thanks so much for your thoughtful reply. Yeah you're right. I've got twins and everything feels like all is lost for me at the moment as it's hard work. I was always really ambitious and loved socialising etc. I met my husband at university and he loved going out etc meeting new people - so we got along.

I need to figure out what I like again etc. I feel a lightbulb has gone off in my head.