I've name changed for this one as it may be outing.
I am not good at reading social situations and honestly never feel attraction to anyone so probably don't notice signs (a family member once told me someone could be standing holding a sign saying they fancied me and I wouldn't even notice).
Anyway back story I have had two relationships in my life and the second was for a long time. He was a longterm friend and offered help when I broke up with my first partner. I was a single mom of one and he used to come and hang round we would go out for days etc then he started making me feel bad like I owed him more etc. He ground me down with all the "I can't believe your stringing me along" but then turn back to being nice. I am a people pleaser which I know isn't a good thing and eventually I just gave in. It sounds so stupid looking back but he had a way of making me give in and we had 2 more children. I swear if I hadn't been sterilised (which really pissed him off) I would still be having them. He also never took no for an answer and isolated me from the world until I got the strength to get a job and finally left.
I still feel an idiot for putting up with it all I don't know why I did. He did used to use the kids to stop me leaving and it now turns out he is abusive to them too so I now parent completely on my own.
Back to now I'm 2yrs free happily doing very un exciting things and just being nice to people trying to make friends as I lost so many. There is a guy who works at my dc school who I talk to every day about school stuff at drop off and pick up. His dc also attend a group with mine and as they don't drive I give the dcs lifts if needs be. I give other people's kids lifts too if they need help so not just his.
Over the holidays we be went to the park and they were there kids played happily and we had a chat. Before we left he said "we are coming here again next week pop down if your about so the kids can play" turned out that day we were free so went there kids played again. Then I start getting texts asking how I am so I just reply fine you. Nothing interesting and they suddenly turn to him telling me he wants someone to love him and his kids and want to go out I said no I'm happy as I am. He says I guess you just want to be "friends" then you really shouldn't mess with people like this.
It's completely thrown me and made me feel sick as it feels exactly like my last relationship. I don't know what I've done wrong as I was just acting how I would with anyone and now school is just going to be weird.