First time poster here. Just looking for someone who may have had similar experiences. Been with my DH since I was 17, two kids now aged 6 and 8, I am 40 next year . My husband I guess looking back has always been on the anxious side . He split from me before we got married (13 years ago) thinking he wanted to be single , with work on both sides I agreed to take him back , but told him I could not cope with a break up again. very traumatic work situation which left him with work related anxiety and depression occured 8 years ago. He refused to get help (he ended up being off for a year) and I guess looking back I have spent the last 8 years propping him up emotionally and practically.. as the fear is there there could be an acute episode again . Fast forward to this Feb, he turns around and tells me he is unhappy , I am controlling and he ends up moving out . We try counselling and he is horrid and cold and says he thinks we are incompatible.. still refusing to acknowledge he needs help with his mental health . After 2 months ish.. realises how right I have been and turns into a blubbering mess and says how much he needs me back etc etc.. and is now receiving counselling and has started medication. But. There is just something missing for me.. I just don't know if I can trust him again .. I'm trying but there is a bit of me that just can't .. 😕.. he is still up and down a lot .