Disapproval of own parents

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I feel I have to justify my life choices to my parents and the disapproving comments are wearing thin. I live a fairly standard life, recently divorced but much happier now. Yet I still feel that they are surprised or even put out that I'm living my life better than I have before.
If I decide to do/buy something there's a comment. I often wonder if my DM has some jealousy as she didn't have them courage or money to leave my DP
Has anyone had this? It's making me not want to tell them anything

Yes

My parents seem to have an opinion on everything, my parenting skills, what we buy for our house, our holidays. Then if we don't listen to their opinion, and what we do doesn't go exactly right, then it's "told you so"

I just tell them the bare minimum now!

Yes I think telling them less is the key. I think they have too much time to stew over things now they're retired.
Think I need to accept that I don't need to share all aspects of my life with them. I stayed with my husband longer than I should have because I worried what they'd say. I'd hate to think my DD does that in years to come

I dont speak to my parents after my divorce.

Mum told me I couldnt leave him, because I would cope. I laughed, she was a single mum for many years. She has mental health problems and did not cope at all. We didn't see dad for years because she would either move or tell him she would kill us if he tried to get near us. Then she did let him see us and she basically told him, they had to get back together or she would disappear with us again. She didnt cope in those years at all. She was sectioned twice after he left. Her parents moved us around the country to different relatives so he couldnt find us. Until she came home.

She told be that exh attacking me wasnt that bad. Dad sat there in silence because of he disagrees with her she will make jom miserable for weeks on end.

But yes, when I bought my house she was mad. Didnt like, didnt like the area, said I would end up not paying Bill's and not coping.

The fact that I didnt just cope, I flourished. The kids did too. The happier I got, the worse she got. The she finally told me 'it's not rape if you are married you broke you family up for nothing. Just selfishness' it broke my heart and I havent seen either of them since.

Sometimes parents cant cope with seeing us happy.

Yes, I have been thinking about this question today. I feel my mother is, and always has been, over involved in my life because she she didn't have a job outside of the home and resents me working now because she's in her 80s and wants me to be available to her. Last year I tried to work full time in a new role but it was stressful travelling, studying and working (I'm in my 50s and menopausal) so I quit last month and am returning to an easier part time role soon. Talking to my husband today, I said I feel pressure from my mum not to work whereas I get pressure from husband because I don't work full time. I see my mum usually once a week, ring her every other day, do bits of light housework etc when I drop in etc. She's very grateful and it's not a problem; I see it as part of my responsibility towards her. But, I'm thinking of embarking on a 2 year part time professional training to qualify in a field of interest to me, and am actually thinking of not telling her as she'll sabotage it in a subtle way. My husband actually suggested this today and so this is a long winded way of agreeing that sometimes it's best to keep things to ourselves. It's taken me a while to accept that my mother doesn't really want me to succeed because she feels threatened by that idea.

Yes I understand then feeling threatened. I have recently set up my own business and pleased with how it going, however there is always comments on when/how long I'm working. My work is flexible but they commented that I should be working instead of meeting a friend for lunch, yet they have no understanding or interest in my work