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Why is my ex making me suffer in pregnancy

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beautifulearth · 24/08/2019 21:26

Me and my ex broke up 3 month ago after two year of relationship after two day of our broke up i found of i was pregnant and i let him know, but he push me and his family constantly to abort it but i have decided to keep it so his family and him was too much mad at me. they send me a lot of bad messages wishing me and the baby to die in my belly and so on. and he make it clear for me that he will not be completely supportive in my pregnancy or even when the child born he will not be in his life and i had accepted, now he is contacting me saying one day he want to be involved and the next day he don't want. he change his mind many times. and yesterday he told me he want to make DNA test while i'm pregnant and tell me if i refuse he will take me to court. and i am too much stressed with his behavior when i blocked him he is contacting my family saying as a father he have right to ask and identify the baby, he is confused,one day he say its my baby and one day he is asking DNA saying he don't trust me. and i don't know what to do. he also say even if he take the DNA he will not be in my pregnancy moments but only when the child born but he say he only want it to identify. i am feeling too much stress and in a depression situation.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 24/08/2019 21:30

Block his and his families numbers for now and focus on yourself and your pregnancy. He can request a DNA test once the baby is born but not before. You can’t put his name on the birth certificate if he’s not there to register the baby with you. Give the baby your last name.

CaptainMyCaptain · 24/08/2019 21:32

Give the baby your name and have as little as possible to do with him. I sympathise, I've been there.

Span1elsRock · 24/08/2019 21:37

Block all numbers and all contact. He doesn't have any right to do this to you.

If it carries on, go to the Police.

CmdrCressidaDuck · 24/08/2019 21:53

He can't force you to do a prenatal DNA test. So block him and all his family until the baby's born.

He can potentially take you to court for parental responsibility after the birth, but he can write to you by snail mail if he really wants to do that, and he may not. I would leave him blocked and hope he gets bored, tbh.

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