Advice needed I'm a mess

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So iv been seeing a guy for over a year now I got pregnant quite soon (not planned so was a big shock obviously) but told him rite from the start he doesn’t need to stay involved with me just because I’m having his baby as id always let him be involved in everything but he choose to stick around me he’s even met my kids iv meet his and wee see each other when we can and everything’s going fine (well so I thought) he does make me happy we FaceTimed every nite and I just no iv fell for him big time ❤️ in 7 weeks time our baby girl will be here 💜 but now out of the blue he tells me he’s got a lot going on in his life he needs space and time to think he’s stressed bla bla bla but now I’m left feeling confused hurt upset angry not sure what to do as he won’t talk to me or Answer my calls apart from one call in witch he told me he would phone me back and that I wasn’t to feel like any this was my fault because I’d done nothing wrong it was just his head but he never did call bk so now I’m left feeling like yes i have done something wrong and the psycho in me has phoned him messaged him over the last few days I no it’s makeing things worse but it’s so hard not to want answers or to want to talk to him 💔 what do I do am I being selfish should I respect his need for space and am I rite or wrong to be feeling this way! I just feel absolutely gutted on top of the pregnancy hormones iv not stopped crying finding it so hard to keep my self together telling my self he will phone when he’s sorted his head out but another part of me is saying he’s ignoring me intentionally making me think crazy thoughts 😤

I'm not surprised you feel horrendous.

You've been horribly let down. And at a very vulnerable time.

He's really pulled the rug from under you, hasn't he? A real shock.

So, firstly do you have anyone to look after your dcs when you go into labour?

And do you have anyone else that you would have with you when you are in labour?

When you've had a few days to digest this crap that this man has landed on you, you need to carefully consider if he is truly someone you even want in your life.

What if he lets down your dd like he's let you down?

Please stop messaging and calling him.

Go all icy and grey rock on him. He really doesn't deserve much else from you at the moment.

I have my mum who can be there it really is sending me over the top rite now I'm so glad my own kids are at there dads rite now and don't need to see me like this iv not been out my bed since yesterday and today I'll be doing the same everytime I wake up I just cry I'm a total mess I'm only asking him to talk to me and he can't even answer one message xx

My DD came 4 weeks early, so get yourself prepared to go solo.

It could just be that he's feeling overwhelmed by it all, but it could also be that he's withdrawing from you.

I made the same mistake of falling pregnant quickly with a man I hadn't known for long (didn't think I could get pregnant due to multiple miscarriages). He was amazing at first, but once the novelty wore off he became a pig. Needless to say I left when DD was 3 months old. Thank God he's a good dad to our daughter!

I hope all works out for you xx

Things happen for a reason,which isn't helpful when we are in the thick of them. I reckon you've had a lucky escape from this man. Go to your mum, get your big woman knickers on and set your shoulders back, chin up, get ready to meet your lovely new baby.

And stop messaging him.

I think he's not going to give you an explanation or any answers. People who run away like that usually don't

Thank you xx