I’m looking for a handhold please I haven’t spoken to any one in real life .
My husband and I had a massive row three weeks ago . I was full of rage and resentment after years of carrying the load, despite working full time, three kids, two with special needs. My husband can be quite shouty and curse around the children when they don’t do what they’re told . I’ve always stepped in. I realise that his relationship is now t my business but I won’t have cursing and shouting either . He says I undermine him. He leaves the house at seven and arrives home at eight , eats, sits down and either falls asleep or goes on his phone. He hardly speaks to me or the kids unless. I ask him questions .
Anyway I absolutely blew some weeks ago and it all came out . I said some terrible things in the heat of the argument . He hasn’t really spoken to me since besides the practical
Discussions re kids, house etc. I told him that o want to try to make it work . He told me he doesn’t , he wants to separate a, at least a trial . The most important thing to me right now is that our children are protected from all of this . We will live together but lead separate lives. I’m not sure the children will notice much dofferemce tbh . He will move out of the bedroom . Please advise or help or something. I’m actually in shock. He won’t do marriage counselling.