Trying to keep this short and to the point. I have a truly terrible relationship with my ex husband. He is a bully and has form for domestic abuse. I do not say anything negative about their father.
The children often come home puzzled by his behaviour and about the negative things he says about people, he also often cried. He tells the kids far too much, he uses these situations to try and discredit me and other people he doesn't like. His has form for having no boundaries. Regardless I have a few standard lines I use, eg "well that's up to daddy, we just need to be kind to people" but it leaves my children confused. They know his behaviour isn't right and I kind of feel its my responsibility to guide them appropriately. Is it in my kids best interest to remain nutruel or do I some how appropriately let them know what he's saying isn't true or that some of behaviour isn't right.
I'm not interested in making him out to be a bad person, but I have a responsibility to guide my children and teach them about good and bad behaviour etc etc.