Upset by Ex MIL attitude about tonight

[Cherrypop99]

What would you do ?

My son is in a theatre production tonight and it's the last night so myself and my family are going.
The Ex MIL and I don't talk after a very acrimonious divorce with her son, but seemingly she is turning up tonight too. This is of course lovely for my son who is in the production but ex MIL is already texting my kids saying "is your mum coming ?" and "if I see your other family, I'm going to ignore you all but remember that I do love you".
It's really upset me as it's put a strain on both my children whereas my own family have not mentioned a thing and would not stoop so low as to cause any drama.
It's a very interactive show so how should I act with her? I sent her a lovely text yesterday to say how nice it was of her to be coming and I hope she enjoyed it. She didn't respond.

"if I see your other family, I'm going to ignore you all but remember that I do love you".

'Whatever'.

As Michelle Obama says "when they go low, we go high"
Basically carry on being polite and friendly and she will look stupid if she flounces.
Encourage the children to delete the silly text messages because "our family has manners and we don't ignore people, we use our manners"
My Inlaws told me that I was overreacting and all men were entitled to behave like my ex- behaviour that the Police defined as domestic abuse, blocking them all was a delight

Go up to her with a big smile saying how lovely it is of her to come, and how nice to see her. Either she has to respond politely, which she'll hate, or she'll have to ignore you, which she will be aware makes her look like an arsehole.

Ooooo I agree with Tonnerre!!!

That's what I was thinking... do the polite stuff. Just so upset for my kids though.

Great advice on this thread. Rise above it, be the bigger person.

Kill with kindness. She will hate it.

Yes, agree with Tonnerre, be polite and civil, she'll know she can't ignore it in public without making herself look like a dick.

Don’t be upset for your kids, you are not the one being a dick. Letting it get to you or your children is giving her what she wants. Not pandering to her antics is the easiest way to show her that ^you* won’t give her permission to bring you down.

This is who she is and there isn’t a nicer version of her waiting around the corner, the sooner your accept her for who she is the easier it will be for them to deal with. It’s the pretending and hoping that takes its toll.

Drama queens absolutely hate it when their power plays are ignored.

Does your so actually say anything about it?

I think id carry on being like you are to the MIL. Not OTT but polite.

I think id say to the son though, that you find it bizarre that they cant even be polite to you, and you are sorry if it makes him feel in an awkward position, but to concentrate on the fact that they clearly love you (the son) and to remember that it doesnt hurt you (you) and that you will continue as you are. You dont have a problem with their contact, and you will support whatever relationship with them that he wants or doesnt want.

She's putting the chn in a horrible position. Depending on their ages, I think I would ask if they'd like to reply and if so, help them word something back.

As for how to treat them, hold your head up and be cool but polite. Try to keep your focus on the chn and the show.