Is this why I am single or have I just not met him yet?! My online dating approach...

[wetterbythesea]

Since I signed up to online dating I have chatted to a lot of people, had phone calls with those I liked then met ones I liked from those calls. Every person has asked to meet again and sometimes I’ve gone on two or three dates. I was meeting maybe three people a week at one point. I never felt like any were that great and immediately after a date I would just get on with searching again online! It is almost like I am thinking there is always someone better?

Is that why I’ve not made it work with anyone? Maybe if guy number 5 had been the only guy available then I would have seen him more and feelinfs would have developed? Instead, even if I’ve met someone again, by then I’m already chatting to someone new! Is this the problem or have I just not met the right one?

Feeling hopeless with it all!

How old are you?

I like to think that online dating as it is today is pretty much like a revolving door where there's a constant stream of people going in and out. There's just so many easily available 'options' that it doesn't really matter if you move on after 5 minutes of talking to someone because we're certain that there's bound to be someone else around the corner.

Maybe set a minimum limit when it comes to the people you're interested in, even if said interest is very minor? Give yourself, say, 2 weeks to get to know them before deciding if you're going to talk to someone else. Who knows, someone you previously dismissed as being a 'probably not' might turn into a 'maybe', cliched as that sounds.

If you met someone you really liked, do you think you would still do this?

Just not met the right one. Good on you for being able to power through the dates. I once did three in 4 days and vowed never again cause its so disheartening when they aren't for you.

Maybe being more selective would help. I just got tinder again and tell myself not to swipe right if a. I don't fancy them and b. There is anything in their profile that puts off. Trying to go for quality dates over quantity.

But really, we don't know until we go either way so...