Help my husband is addicted

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My husband is addicted to his mobile I don't know what to do it is infuriating me we
Have a 1 year old daughter and he just ignores her and constantly sits on his phone even when we are out for a meal with my perents I've had to pull him up on it in front of them as I find it so embarrassing and it really upsets me I can't remember if he was addicted before we had a baby but ever since we had her he has been I've told him so many times how angry, upset and embarrassed it makes me but he still carries on even in front of people he looks like a bad father as he isn't paying any interest in me or our child but he isn't really. I feel
Like he is missing her grow up what can I do?? please help it's making me so depressed!! 😔

I just want to say that I am with you on that one. Xxx

What does he say when you talk to him about it?

What is he doing on it?

Sounds like he’s tying to escape into his own world because he doesn’t enjoy being a father.

Is he generally happy? It may be some kind of depression as he may be overwhelmed by parenting, responsibility etc. and isolating himself . Being on the phone all the time must be a very long experience. He may need help with this. Perhaps you can suggest that he see to a professional about this? Maybe even both of you?

Or is he just an immature idiot?

How much childcare, housework, cooking, washing does he do? I’ll bet very little.

He is a bad father, in fact he’s not a father at all.

LTB

What is his response when it's mentioned? Does he act like it's not an issue, or does he say he'll fix it and then just carry on?

I wonder if he's avoiding real life and responsibilities, by basically shutting the world out.

What is he actually doing on his phone? Gaming, gambling, social media?

Bash it out of his hand. Every single time. With any luck it will break. Tell him how much its affecting you and family and agree limits.

"Bash it out of his hand."
Ha, ha. No, don't do this OP.

Definitely do not bash it out of his hand!

Unfortunately you've had a child with a man who isn't parent material.

In the short term you might be able to shame him into practical tasks like "bath and bed" by running your own "sorry I'm on my phone" game.

Ultimately he either steps up as a parent or (more likely, sorry) you're on your own. But you're already on your own with your DC so having him out the picture will probably make things easier.

Tell him it's anti-social and he needs to put it on the charger or in his pocket during mealtimes.

Also tell him it's a deal-breaker if he can't control his addiction. Sometimes you have to be really upfront with people and say it's not acceptable behaviour. Otherwise they won't change.

I speak from experience - DH told me that some of my behaviour wasn't acceptable a few years ago and I either changed, or it was over between us. It gave me a hell of a shock, but it worked. Good luck.