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Straw that broke the camel's back?

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MooominMamma · 23/08/2019 19:59

I am fuming right now and am seriously thinking that what has just happened signals the end of my marriage, 12yrs married, 2DC. To be fair we have had our share of problems throughout, he is very closed emotionally and I have mental health problems, which, at their height cause a lot of paranoia. Anyway, back to tonight's problem, he was giving our DS's a haircut, he's very good with the hair clippers, we're not talking cutting round a bowl. Eldest DS specifically did not want his hair short, he wanted to keep his curls, he is 10, he is sensitive, he is under CaHMS for anxiety. I went to bath youngest DS, elder DS hair was looking lovely, just as he had wanted it, I praised DH, DS10 all smiley, all was good, off to bath we go. Imagine my shock when I return from said bath and DS10 hair has all but bloody gone! I am fuming! Am I wrong to be?! DS is very upset. DH claims he didn't specify what he wanted, bullshit, DS has been putting off having his hair cut for weeks because he did not want it short, he bloody knew alright. Anyway, I've had a go at DH, basically about DS having his own identity, which he is actually struggling with, but that's a whole other thread.
I just don't know if I can live with this person anymore, maybe I just need to calm down.
I have considered separating more times than I can blimmin count, am I daft in letting this incident be the straw that breaks the camel's back, as it were.

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Windmillwhirl · 23/08/2019 20:20

I'm so sorry, op. I can totally understand your anger.

Sounds like this is just one in a series of resentments. The fact that it involves your little one that suffers with anxiety makes it especially bad.

If he knew, as you say he did, then he waited till you were out of sight to cut it all off. That is so incredibly sly.

How is your little boy now?

MooominMamma · 23/08/2019 20:28

Thanks for replying windmill, DS is ok now, he came back from his bath with a hoodie on though, to hide it, he has now taken it off but keeps saying that he doesn't like his hair. I've tried to reassure him with the 'at least it will grow back', but it's just so far from the point.
H has taken himself off to the bedroom watching videos on his phone, good job really because I really do not want to be seeing him right now.

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RandomMess · 23/08/2019 20:37

Death my a thousand tiny cuts...

MooominMamma · 23/08/2019 20:41

😂 Not a bad idea Random

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RandomMess · 23/08/2019 20:46

I can't believe he forced his 12 year old to get his hair cut Sad

MooominMamma · 23/08/2019 21:18

He's really not a bad guy overall, if you were to ask any other person that knows him, they would tell you that he's a great bloke. I'm even convinced that my dad is more keen on him than he is me.
The thing is, he is not originally from the UK, but has been here for 18 years. I just think maybe he is a little too stuck in his ways? But do I let my DC mental health suffer because of his father's culture? It's not a vastly different culture, just not as modern and progressive as the UK is, especially with regards to other people's rights. I don't know what to do. Maybe there is nothing I can do, he will always be his father after all.

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