My parents are getting older and have a number of health problems, especially my Mum.
My Mum fell and broke her hip 3 weeks ago. Due to her other health problem the operation was very risky and we were warned that she might not survive it. There was also a night post op where it looked very likely she would die.
I can’t visit much as I have a 3 yr old and a baby who is now 5 weeks. I have been a handful of time, mostly with DH sitting in the cafe with baby so I could leave and feed when needed. Baby is now 5 weeks and has suspected cmpa and reflux so we are not using formula. I can’t express, it just doesn’t work and under 12s are not allowed on the ward. I could find people to look after the 3 year old but I can’t leave the baby and husband has now gone back to work so he can’t sit with the baby in the cafe. Baby cluster feeds from 5 to 9 every night. 3 year old is struggling with new baby.
My sister works term time and has done more visiting than me, except for the week she went on holiday. She also has children to look after, aged 8 and 13. My Dad is struggling with the visiting and the stress if the situation and has been unwell himself and unable to visit at times.
There are two visiting slots, afternoon and evening. I was planning on visiting on Saturday and Monday afternoon. This way I can hopefully feed the baby before I go. My sister is not happy with this (she wants to go out on Saturday night). She has been disapproving in tone and what she has said as well at messages given to me via my Mum. I’m exhausted, averaging 5 hours sleep a night, upset that I can’t be there for my parents, struggling with breast feeding and trying to figure out how to manage 2 children. Mum has a long road to recovery, months opposed to weeks before she will be home. Most of her recovery will be in a rehab/care home were I’m hoping I can visit with baby.
Someone please tell me how I can improve this situation.