Why do I feel like this?

[Hidingawayfromtheworld]

I’ve been with DP 7 years, we have a son and are due to get married. On the surface we have it all. But for some reason I just don’t feel happy, like there is something missing and we’re just going through the motions.
I’ve been introduced to a guy who’s only 24 for 6 years younger than me as he’s the son of a lady I work with.
For some bloody reason I can’t stop thinking about him. As soon as I saw him I was quite attracted to him, before I realised he was my colleagues son. He occasionally helps out and he’ll chat to me and say things like “thanks gorgeous”, I dyed my hair from blonde to brunette and all DP had to say was it looked strange as he isn’t used to it, no one else has said a thing yet the first thing he said was “nice hair”
I don’t know if it’s cos he makes me feel attractive? He knows I’m engaged and have a child etc, he’s just come out of a long relationship and his mum said he’s been having different girls around so I’m under no illusion that’s he’s young, free and would not be able to have half the life I have now with him.
So why do I keep fantasising about him? Even if I try not to and try to keep conversation to a bare minimum I can’t help it.
Is this cold feet maybe? Any advise?

I think you need to avoid him from now on tbh.

Maybe try and avoid him? He sounds like a womaniser and it could go a bit sour. ESP if his mum is a colleague it's best to stay professional.

I agree. Stay away. He's a bit of a charmer and, rather than rolling your eyes and seeing it for what it is, you're drawn to it/him because things aren't right at home.

So then you need to look at your relationship.

Has there always been "something missing"? Or is it a recent thing?

I'd be thinking about your impending wedding very carefully, if I were you. Your life is too precious to enter into an unsatisfying marriage.

I think you’re flattered by the attention which is natural but don’t go there.

He's just highlighting what you think is missing in your current relationship. Has there always been something missing or is it something that just needs work on to get back?

I think you are vulnerable to this other guy because you are not happy in your relationship at the moment. Maybe think about what is missing in that relationship and if you need to work on something before marriage. Give the co-workers son a wide berth at all costs.

You feel like this because you’re flattered and excited that he wants to shag you and you want him too.
You’re basically the person I described on another thread earlier - in a faltering, unfulfilling long term relationship and an opportunity has come along to make you feel alive again.
If you continue to have proximity with this guy and he continues to pursue you, I bet my house you will have some sort of affair with him.

He won't care you;re engaged. He's young and single and playing the field. He might even see you as a bit if a challenge.
I get why you're flattered though, if you feel a bit neglected by your DP. Try to avoid this guy and really assess whether you should be getting married - that is where your focus should be,.

Thanks all. I’m not sure if we have maybe run our course as they say, I think having DS gave us a bit of extra time but we’re starting to flag again. We bicker a fair bit, and all he shows any amount of passion for is his job (which I know isn’t a bad thing, but it doesn’t need to be all he talks about), and football. I feel like there is something missing, I look at other couples and just think they look so happy. He does nothing to help me around the house and to be honest he’s just let himself get lazy and out of shape. I don’t find him attractive anymore and that’s the first time I’ve admitted that to myself.
I see what you all mean that this guy is probably a distraction and has shown how vulnerable our relationship is for me letting it even enter my thoughts. I luckily don’t get any time alone with him so there wouldn’t be the opportunity for anything to happen but I feel ashamed really for the fact that I can’t hand on heart say that if the opportunity had arisen that something might not have happened.
I think we’ve just gone through the motions, house, child, now the next step is marriage but I don’t think it is the right thing. I just feel trapped - I can’t imagine being 30, a single mum and back with my parents until I get on my feet.