I think my girlfriend is taking the mick

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I don't have kids but I came on this site specifically for womens point of view and i knew some of you will be in similar situation to her.

I'm 27 and as I said I have no kids, I live with my parents simply because I cannot afford to move out yet. My girlfriend has two kids and lives in a council house, she doesnt understand why I still live with my parents but forgets I would not be given a house as easily as she was.

Anyway I visit her on weekends, it costs me a fortune to do this as I have to come on train as my car is off the road, I had an old car which was my hobby more than my car but again she didn't understand this, thought it was stupid to own a car that "broke" so much so I ended up getting rid of it to please her. Now she gets pissed off because I go down on train so cannot take her out due to having no car, she tells me I should buy a "normal" car but I begrudge being told what to buy, I don't like "Normal" cars and would rather save up and buy something I like.

She also moans because I "never have any money", she wants me to take her out but after paying train fares I simply cannot afford to but I do try, every now and again I will take money specifically to take her out but she begrudges every little thing I buy myself. If I step a foot wrong in her house like leave clothes on the floor she will remind me that she's not my mother yet nags at me and tells me what to spend my money on as if she IS my mother.

When I am there we don't exactly have a ball, she lets her kids climb on me, they're constantly screaming and screeching, singing and shouting and she knows it does my head in but she wont tell them to stop it, she just says "thats kids" but no other kid I know acts like that. Her eldest is 7 and he is constantly trying to hug me which again gets on my nerves but she wont tell him off, she gets all defensive if ever I say anything to him or about him.

We no longer have sex, she always makes excuses like she's tired, has headache, she's constantly "That time of the month", she doesnt even kiss me. Constantly says that Im childish and laughs at me, has broken up with me twice yet won't say no when I offer to buy her anything or take her out.

So is she using me for company like I suspect she is? I don't want to finish and I know we would be ok but she wont discuss moving in together yet moans that we're "stuck" in limbo with no progression on our relationship. I feel I can't do right for wrong.

You want children with her? You can't even deal with the ones she's got! Don't fall into the trap of thinking YOUR child with her will take priority, they would ALL be her children, and her 3rd child would be like anyone else's 3rd child - in a queue.

do you buy yourself xboxes?

Leave her.

Leave her in peace.

Immediately.

Her children sound normal - and btw how lovely of her older child to want to cuddle you.

I suggest you rearrange the letters of your nickname to give a more accurate portrayal of your true nature.

You better get yourself into reading what dyspraxia and AHDH are, and you will be finally able to understand why her children are acting like that or why they kept messing about when you tried to teach them cricket.

Although, having said that, I have a slight doubt of you being the girlfriend trying to see what do we think of boyfriend's behaviour . If so... well, it's the same, you don't seem to be made for each other.

its all coming across wrong, I told her when we first got together that I didnt mind her having children, that I would take them on as if they were my own. I made an effort with their father to make sure that there was no bad feeling around them. Everything was fine for the first few months, I tolerated them jumping on me in a morning, I tolerated the screaming and micky taking and she would have a laugh too, would joke around, wouldn't moan about things being on the floor but after a while I got sick of it, I gave my car up for her and she wasn't happy, I started getting up earlier in a morning but it wasnt early enough for her, we had plans for me to move in with her but all of a sudden she changed her mind and said it wouldn't work. Then to rub salt in the wound she finished with me saying we were not "compatable" yet I stuck around and eventually she agreed to give it another go. I buy her kids dvds, I took us all to the cinema this weekend and when we got out her 7 year old started shouting lines from the film in the carpark and everyone was looking at us. she doesnt seem to realise how bad her kids are sometimes.

move on.

you either love her AND her kids or you find someone else, preferably someone who loves old cars too.

Isabelle I agree actually. I think that this is lifesteeth trying to get yet another opinion from us on her tedious relationship.
split up with him. or at least stop bleedin posting about it if you are going to do nothing about it. Put us all out of our misery.

I have an xbox but we're not going on holiday together (??)

I told her I wanted to go on holiday but she wanted to go away with her mum instead.

Link to the x-box thread anyone?

a 7yo child repeating lines from a family film in a cinema car park ? That's bad, is it ?

Are you for real ?

He is 7 for god's sake. No doubt he was excited to be out on a family day out, excited to see a film. Repeating the lines etc is a sign that he enjoyed it, that in his eyes it was a nice day out.

i totally agree carmenere. we heard from lifesteeth, the bf's mum, and now the genius himself.

Oh I missed the bf's mum episode. Do link please.

trip trap..

I think you have tried to make it work, good, but...it is obviously it hasn't. If you don't have enough patience for the kids just visiting over the weekend, imagine what life would be living with them.

I think you should move on and find someone else more compatible with you.

here it is

just did a search for lifeteeth's thread, as I think I have missed this saga. Tis indeed her.

I think it might be the 7 year old....

Lifesteeth, why are you obsessing with this loser? Just finish it and move on.

I ran a search on lifesteeth's threads.

Either

a) You are a complete moron who can't see the wood for the trees where this 'relationship' is concerned

or

b) a total attention seeker, using MN as some sort of vehicle for your weird made up life.

This is bizarre...

maybe they deserve each other

how utterly tedious

leave

or don;t leave

don;t come here complaining when you clearly have no concept of what an adult relationship is

and of course the fact her DCs have been diagnosed by members of the medical profession is irrelevant, you know better, and they are just bad kids

get a grip

yes did a search too. is deffinatly her.

tis all very sad

And now the sibling has chipped in too? Ah, the school holidays are fun, aren't they?

i know its like a family get together on MN lol