Stuck

[MARTHA74]

I'm struggling. My OH has been away for 2 nights and spoke to him a couple of times. The thing is I didn't miss him one iota. Now his back all i can think is I'm better off on my own,as i loved my own space. Its on the tip of my tongue to tell him that i can't do this anymore and want to end it. But feel sick and just chicken out. I don't feel that i love him like i should as a doting wife and only see him as a friend. We have slept in separate beds for months due the snoring, so obviously theres no sex, and i don't feel like having any either. I don't know what to do.

Sorry you feel this way, I was in the same sitation for 7 year.. We split 2 years ago and now we are really good friends. We have children together and we stuck it out initially for them.. We never had sex and when we did it didn't feel right at all for either of us I think .. I think your best to do it now than later, maybe you both need a fresh start.. maybe he feels the same? Best to talk it through.. you never know it could spice back up your relationship and shock you. Maybe you've both fallen into a rut and unsure how to get out of it x

Theres an 18 year agegap between us which of late has started to tell. I feel like I'm in the prime of my life and hes an old man. I have told him I'm unhappy, but he wants to know specifics of why. I wish i could pin point specifics, but i really have no clue. I just know that life should not be like this where I'm dreading having days off with him. Communication is key i know that, but I'm hopeless at explaining myself properly.

I think you need to just be totally honest as both of your happiness matters. You need to explain you feel like you want to enjoy your life and you may both agree that with the age gap it's causing a problem. If u r truly unhappy and feel its the right decision to be separated then from experience, do it or regret it. But make sure its truly what you want and there is no way of working things out xx

I cant say that he hasn't tried to make me happy, he has, booking weekends away going out to the local when we can. But within half an hour run of conversation then i just get bored and want to go home. Which is MY fault, I'm trying to get passed it, but inside my head i have constant thoughts of..in 6months, 3months, 4 months time. When things that are planned are done, when I've lost more weight excuse after excuse. Then I'm telling him its over. Its so hard, i want it to work, but then on the other side of things i don't