Husband secretly drinking

[Mumwestyorks]

Hi
I’m just looming for advice on how to approach this...
I know my husband has not been entirely honest about his booze intake in the past - I’ve walked into the kitchen on odd occasions to find him chugging back a glass despite offering no one else it.
Anyway last night I think he drank a whole bottle secretly....(had a Sainsbury’s delivery yesterday and bottle of wine is missing today. Matching empty bottle by the bins and wine glass in dishwasher).
It’s the secrecy more than anything that bothers me?
He knows I think he drinks too much but I’ve never made a big deal about it because I hate the way he reacts if I ever mention anything. I join him in the odd glass of wine towards the end of the week and weekends.
Anyway, it’s the deceit that is bothering me - what shall I do? He’s been secret about things before - we both quit smoking but he carried on secretly. Recently found that he’s vaping secretly.
Why secretly?
I get that he doesn’t want a row or anything but it hurts that he’s hiding things from me - we’ve been together 16 years and have two little kids.
How shall I play this?

@Watchingthyme......exactly (I did too) -he’s not hiding the glass etc but he was clearly hiding the actual drinking of it otherwise he’d have sat down with the OP glass in hand . Perhaps he didn’t want to share I.e. need the whole bottle and didn’t want you having any. As a problem drinker myself , it’s a bad sign.

I think the issue is he not only kept it hidden BUT as you were mostly with him last night he must have been nipping out and chugging a glass. That's not normal drinking.
I drink, DH doesn't and he can be a bit sneery about it but I would never hide my drinking like that. How much can he be enjoying it if he's having to neck it fast?

My ex was a secret drinker.

He was an alcoholic. Secrecy is one of the traits. He died drunk. It's not okay.