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A penny for your thoughts please

20 replies

Willing2acceptAdvice · 21/08/2019 10:29

Hey all, I split up with my ex about 5 months ago and now I feel ready to start dating again. As a 36 almost 37 year old guy with no children, that wants children? Does anyone here think I am going to struggle to meet someone?

I’m a professional guy with a good job, my own house, dog, car and no baggage. I’m not someone who just sleeps around and I’m looking for some thing serious.

If you were single at 30-36 and on a dating site what would you set the age range of a guy you’re looking to meet at?

OP posts:

bumpsadaisy11 · 21/08/2019 10:35

Hi Willing,

I just wanted to know that I met the love of my life when I was 32 (he was 37)

We are now very happily married with a family of our own.

I know that it sounds silly, but before I embarked on the online dating thing. I sat down & wrote a list of the qualities that I wanted in my partner (it was a very long list!) I wanted to be clear in what I wanted. Well my husband ticked every single thing on my list.
I wish you luck in your search, may you find all that you are looking for xx

loobyloo1234 · 21/08/2019 10:39

There will be plenty of women looking for men your age OP? If I were a 36yr old male - I would set my age range from 28-40. Not sure if that helps? Good luck

Igetknockeddownbutgetupagain · 21/08/2019 10:41

I’m looking for someone that age, so yes, is the answer

Go for it!

AliciaWhiskers · 21/08/2019 10:45

I don’t think you’ll struggle at all. I went onto OLD at 37, I think I set my age range from 35-45.

Jaffacakesaremyfave · 21/08/2019 11:41

I'm 34 and would date between 30-40 (if I ever dare to step back in the dating pool).

I think you will have lots of interest OP as certainly when I've tried OLD in the past it's been full of guys your age who are creepy losers looking for women to sponge off (or maybe I just attract those ones 😬)

AnneKipanki · 21/08/2019 11:44

Hi Dave !

dontquit · 21/08/2019 11:45

You'll have no prob at all if you're fairly normal.. Lots of girls in their 30's single and eager to find the one. I'm 36 and married but if single I would have dated 37 Yr old no prob from age of 28 on

AnneKipanki · 21/08/2019 11:46

Is your favourite film Groundhog Day ?

dontquit · 21/08/2019 11:47

As 30yr old I would have dated anyone up to 40.. Now at 36 would prob stretch to early 40's

Snowflake9 · 21/08/2019 11:49

I am 28 and my DH is 36... Expecting our first baby soon.

Parent999 · 21/08/2019 11:50

I met my partner through the meetup site for single parents. I had tried OLD previously but I did notice that the majority of women I saw from 35-45 already had kids and didnt want more.

user1495832265 · 21/08/2019 11:53

Anne.
I'm sure his name was Andy once before.

AnneKipanki · 21/08/2019 12:27

Hi user ! He has used several .

Cath2907 · 21/08/2019 13:06

My sister found her now husband in his late 30s. They are now married with a 5yr old son. He is about 8 yrs older than her. They met OLD and she had a very clear idea of what she was looking for. He was it!

TimeForNewStart · 21/08/2019 13:12

No, I don’t think women will be interested.

Igetknockeddownbutgetupagain · 21/08/2019 13:16

Ohhhh I’m getting what previous posters mean now

Bunglefromrainbow · 21/08/2019 13:37

Hi OP, 40 YO Male here, can relate to your situation.
At 34 I'd been single for a year or so and tried OLD. I set my search for ages 29-39 and also set some other criteria such as them wanting children.

The dating didn't go great until I was introduced to a friend of a friend who was 28 at the time so I'd have missed her if we'd been on the same dating sites. She was incredibly mature and has completely changed my life for the better.

If I had my time again I'd probably consider going as low as 8 years younger. It sounds like you are looking more for women who are your age or slightly younger, in my experience of OLD most of the women that seemed like they wanted to settle down did target ages on the higher side so a 30 YO tended to have it set at something like 28-40.

And FWIW, you sound like a right catch, if you don't have the personality of a plum you'll be doing a lot of dating. Good Luck.

RLEOM · 21/08/2019 17:38

I'm 34 and search for men aged 30-40.

Thatsalovelycuppatea · 21/08/2019 19:27

Aw I hope my sister meets someone like you! You sound lovely.

Jaffacakesaremyfave · 21/08/2019 22:26

I don't like the phrase 'no baggage' though. It's usually used to imply you don't have children from a previous relationship, so describing children as 'baggage' would put me off.

Also, we all carry shit tons of emotional baggage and if you are able to acknowledge that in yourself and other people, it means you are able to deal with it. Everyone I met on OLD who said they had 'no baggage' was completely emotionally stunted (but then I did attract alot of them so perspective is skewed)

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