Finally - it's over

[Zaphodsotherhead]

I don't know why I'm starting this thread. Mostly get it off my chest.

I have written so many posts about my DP (who I don't live with). How his desire to never go out, spend money or do anything other than watch TV had got to me; his grumpiness, his 'I'm too old to xxxxxx' (he's several years younger than me), his one-upmanship, his general downbeat attitude to everything - which made me nearly PollyAnna myself to death to contradict it.

I have to admit that I engineered the situation that made him finally realise that we have nothing in common left. Now he thinks he has ended the relationship (that I have been trying to end for years). The relief is huge. Thank you to everyone who repeatedly told me to dump him - it's done (and we both get to save face by thinking we were the one to call it off!)

That's a relief for you. Good luck with everything and to a better future without him!

Thank you, Pink. I was ill recently and realised that there's a finite number of years left to me and I don't want to spend them all indoors as it's 'too hot' or 'too crowded' outside; cooking for someone with the palate of a toddler or sitting in front of the TV constantly as 'the dog can't be left alone'.

The relief I had when I left my ex husband was huge. I thought of myself as a very old lady looking back over my life and tried to imagine what my regrets would be and it was him, staying would be my regret so I fucked him out.

We only have so much life left in us op so you're absolutely right to walk.

5 years later I'm still waiting for the big emotional crash that my friends told me would happen after the euphoria wore off. 6 weeks after I chucked him in the bin I met the most wonderful man.

Yes, Rubbing euphoria is pretty much right. And I'm not sure why, we didn't live together so my day-to-day life is no different, but I feel as though a weight has been lifted off me.

It's a shame as he's one of these 'too good to leave, too bad to stay' blokes, and he'll make someone a great partner, as long as they have very simple tastes and don't want to travel!