Texting ex girlfriend! Would you leave?

[Username22344]

Would you break up with your boyfriend/partner if you found out he had been texting his ex girlfriend?

About what?

Not necessarily. One of my fiancé's exes text him to congratulate him on our engagement. It's all in the context.

Well he was the one texting her, late at night, just asking how her and her kids were and he told her what he had been up to (no mention of me at all)! She wasn’t very interested and was giving him very short answers and eventually stopped answering! We have had arguments about her before, so surely he shouldn’t be texting her?

Yes I’d leave.

Its it's for no reason at all and its clear from her replies they arent friends as such, then I wouldnt be happy. It looks like he was trying to see if there was still a chance she wants him. Dipping his toe as it were.

If it was a case of they used to be together but have been friends since and often chit chatted, then I would decide if I could live with that or not before getting in a relationship.

But this sounds like the first one. Sorry op

Thanks I appreciate all the answers! He says he done nothing wrong, he was just saying goodbye to her???

I'm with Flerkin here. If there's nothing more to it than that, it seems he's trying to see if he can rekindle old interest.

I'm sorry

Why did he need to say goodbye. The relationship is over, the goodbye is there.

You dont say goodbye by giving a late might update on your life.

There was no goodbye on the messages, she just wasn’t interested! I wonder what could have happened if she was a bit more interested

Of course he says he's done nothing wrong.
But I would not be happy about it at all.
He was trying to reconnect.
That is not OK.

How long have you been together?
You say he was asking about her DC.
Are they his DC?
Do you live together?

I had similar with my ex. Just had a feeling so I checked his phone - there were messages to his ex. She never replied and they sounded a bit pathetic. Gave him another chance and then I saw on New Year's Eve he'd messaged her a long heartfelt message about how he'd never be able to get over her, he loved her more than anything in the world, blah blah blah. I'd got a very short message in comparison which really pissed me off.

We just couldn't get past it. I brought it up all the time and knew that if she'd responded he'd rather be with her than me. He said I should just get over it and was just being a bitch. Wish I'd just called it a day when I found the first one - especially as he was the second bf in a row to do the same to me!!

I'd call it a day now if you're suspicious there's more to the message than just catching up with her. Could be that he still has feelings and he's hoping she'll reciprocate. Sounds like you need a good chat with him to see what's going on.

I’d call it a day. Disrespectful. Want better for yourself

Yeah I'd leave.

Agree with the others that this was an attempt to rekindle something.

Don't waste wondering what if this and that. He clearly doesn't respect you as you've argued about this before but he's still doing it. You're a space filler for him. Surely you deserve better?

Is this the bf who is also nasty when drunk?

He is not committed to you and not totally in love with you if he is sending these type of texts, if she had replied “ let’s meet for a drink to chat” what do you think his reply would be? If you can’t 200% be sure he would say no thanks then you have your answer
Have some self respect and leave- especially if he is a nasty drunk ???? Run while you still can

Disrespectful and out of order, I’d leave.