Ex trouble

[yelyahyoung]

Hi all. So basically, me and my boyfriend had been discussing a particular ex of his who he talks to every now and again and they used to meet up. He told me that she recently asked to meet up for breakfast but apparently he didn’t reply. I guess I can ignore the part that he talks to his ex but any meeting up would make me feel extremely uncomfortable and it’s really not a situation that I want to be put in. He did say he would take me if they ever did meet but I’m not sure if that’s just reassurance talk or if he actually would. I wouldn’t want to go, which worries me if he’d go anyway.
Anyway, he mentioned to me that she text him saying she had some time to kill and asked if he was free. I was out at this point and I go out every Wednesday from 5pm to around 9pm. So since I was out he told me he said he didn’t want her to come round since he hadn’t run it by me first and didn’t want me feeling weird about it. HOWEVER his text of offering to meet her somewhere that is local in 20 minutes says otherwise to me. He didn’t mention about that, he’s just said something to me and actually said the opposite to her.
What should I think of this?? :( may I add, I am also 13 weeks pregnant with his baby! It’s supposed to be a happy time but I can’t help but worry!

People remain friends or in contact with ex’s for a variety of reasons. The most obvious being they have children together. But for some people it is because they have friendship bonds that survived from before or developed in their relationship. Despite the fact they didn’t work romantically or sexually. In other cases it can because one or both of them still harbours hope or a desire to rekindle their relationship.

There are obvious risks in having staying friends or in contact with an ex if you both want different things from it. However it is up to us as individuals to decide if that is the case. We can also decide how they manage it. These are boundaries we set for ourselves. They can’t be set for us even by new partners. We all have a right to choose friends and how we interact with our friends.

If you think there is something else then you need to define it. What is your concern and who is it with. Because you are saying you don’t trust him and/ or you don’t trust her. Presumably this dates from before your pregnancy, if not what has changed.