When to stop buying gifts?

[gruffalomom]

I've been low contact with my sister for 2-3 years now and no contact for the past year.

I have no regrets, she is horrible and bitter person and my life is better without her toxicity.

But over the last few years we have continued to send gifts to each others DC's for birthdays and christmas. All of our children are 5 and under.

My DC literally wouldn't recognise her if she walked into the house so as they are getting older I've stopped really mentioning who the gifts are from. It's just unfairly confusing.

Her DC's birthdays are coming up and I suspect it's time to stop sending but that makes me the first to do so and it feels a bit aggressive.

I'm not interested in stating a row, I don't want her back in my life but I don't have any anger towards her these days.

Should I stop now or keep sending until she stops?

I’d keep sending the gifts but maybe send them from your children to her children as although you want no relationship with her your children may one day want a relationship with their cousins?

that's a good idea thank you x

I agree with OurChristmas - send the gifts from the children. As they get older maybe get them to draw a picture etc to go along with a pack of sweets or a bubble bath or one of the little Lego kits? I wouldn't be sending big expensive gifts, just 'pocket money' type gifts from child to child. X