Opposite sex can you be just friends?

[Mummytoonlychild]

I don't really know what I'm asking but been working with this guy for just over a year and in the last few months we have been talking alot in work about anything and everything. And a few weeks ago we exchanged numbers and have been taking everyday in and out of work. He's even spoke about going for drinks and he's said he thinks we have a connection. The thing is I really like him. When I first met him I knew he was my type and decided I would not think of him that way at all. And as everyone knows you can't control how you feel and ive fell for him. I really like him as a person and as a man nothing will happen as he has a girlfriend. I could never be the other woman. I think what I'm wondering is am I overthinking this as friends have said you can never be just friends with someone of the opposite sex? I've never really had a male friend that's not gay and he has never implied anything sexual just about a connection sorry I'm rambling I think I just need peoples thoughts on this?

You are being incredibly naive. What would you think of your boyfriend exchanging numbers with a woman who he messages everyday? I doubt that you be thinking they are best friends. You are deliberately sleepwalking into a situation that could well end in you being the OW. You can make the excuse of ‘just being friends’ but if he responds to your feelings, what then? The idea that embarking on an affair would kill you, given the slippery slope behaviour you’ve exhibited so far is preposterous.

End this now before the inevitable happens.

My husband thought he could be "just friends" with someone, and he ended up trying it on with her when he was drunk. So yes you can be "just friends" but as long as you are in control of those feelings. Which are hard to control when you get drunk. Apparently.

"I used to think so, but all of my female friends who have male friends have had them try it on with them at some point. And my ex proved that point by sleeping with both of his female friends and is now dating one of them. I personally feel men are less trustworthy with friends of the opposite sex - they're always thinking with their penis."

They bloody do eh. Dickheads.

Friendships of the opposites sex do require a bit of vigilance.

Stating that you feel a “connection” is definitely overstepping that boundary.

Agree friendships with the opposite sex only work when no physical attraction or emotional connection otherwise there is a danger of it becoming an affair. I also think opposite sex friendships are more likely to remain friendships if you meet in a group or if you are married if you meet them with your partner. Going for drinks alone with a bloke you fancy is not just being friends.