Impact of termination on a relationship

[Millyrose92]

I’m unexpectedly pregnant and am not sure that I want to be, however my partner is very happy even though this was unplanned and not a great time for me MH wise. It’s not the only thing I’m basing my decision on of course but I fear that terminating would cause him to end the relationship as it is clear we want quite diff things - he is happy to settle down and start a family and I’m just not sure that I really am (of course it’ll be me giving up work and me staying at home all day being financially dependent). He is already trying to touch my belly and treating me like I’m some sort of fragile vessel even though I’m only a few weeks and I feel bad for not wanting him to act like this. If you have had a termination in the past how did this affect your relationship?

I sort of feel that I should ‘set him free’ to meet somebody who also wants a family in the near future. I’ve said to him that I do see myself wanting children in the future but I can’t promise anything as the way I’m feeling now I can’t see myself doing a 360 anytime soon

Any child, as you say, will be mainly your responsibility.
This is your body and your life that will be affected.
Does he earn a lot more than you?
Would he give up his career to stay home with a baby?

Do what is right for you.
If he doesn't respect this then it's best you end the relationship any way.
Good luck OP.

It is truly is a terrible thing for a termination to take place if one partner wants the child and the other doesn't.

It doesn't sound as though you have had a proper conversation with your partner if he is as excited about it as you say.

You don't necessarily have to give up work either - have you properly looked into other options of childcare? It certainly doesn't have to mean being stuck at home!