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Best way to cancel this first date (OLD)?

11 replies

WhisperingInTheDark · 19/08/2019 12:06

We've been messaging each other for about a week, and made plans to meet for a drink at the weekend.

He seemed nice enough, but his messages have become more and more frequent, with a certain air of possessiveness about them that I don't feel comfortable about. (eg, I was out late last night and he wanted me to message him when I got in so he knew I was safe. We haven't even met yet!)

I feel uncomfortable about meeting him and want to cancel and block, but it seems wrong to not send him some sort of message first.

He hasn't even done anything wrong, on the surface of it he is perfectly nice and polite. But I feel iffy and that's a good enough reason for me to cancel it. I'm confident in that decision, I just need a hand in wording the message!

I intend to send it and then block, I don't want to get into any sort of conversation about it.

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Shoxfordian · 19/08/2019 12:11

Sorry, I don't think we're right for each other

And block

MargoLovebutter · 19/08/2019 12:12

Just say you are really sorry, you can't make it tonight. He's not going to come around and beat you up!!! I'm presuming he doesn't have any of your personal details.

Justanamechange1 · 19/08/2019 12:12

Sorry, i've had second thoughts, good luck

Black

Justanamechange1 · 19/08/2019 12:12

Sorry that should say block

baileys6904 · 19/08/2019 12:14

Hi, really sorry, my hearts not in it so dont want to waste your time. Good luck in your search x

Then block

NameChangeNugget · 19/08/2019 12:14

I am cancelling tonight and have no interest in ever meeting up

baileys6904 · 19/08/2019 12:17

Got to say though, for me, a text when I got in wouldn't be a deal breaker for me and something I've always asked for and done from pre dating my DP and I'm still besotted years later and vice versa. However what ones persons sweet is another person salt so do understand :)

Tiddlybups · 19/08/2019 12:19

“Sorry I can’t meet or message now. All the best.”

Then block on all mediums. Any messages get through just ignore.

(And yes your instincts are 100% correct on this - this guy sounds like he could be trouble)

moonpiggle · 19/08/2019 12:21

Just tell him your personal circumstances have changed and your no longer in a situation to date. Then wish him all the best. 😂

WhisperingInTheDark · 19/08/2019 12:43

No personal details shared apart from the city I live in!

baileys - I understand that, but we've never even met, and I feel he is already far too invested in me.

I will message him later today; we've exchanged numbers but I've already blocked him on the dating site.

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WhisperingInTheDark · 19/08/2019 12:44

And thank you for the ideas.

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