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What should I do?

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Elle71 · 19/08/2019 09:22

Hi everyone, I'm new on here but have been reading through lots of posts and you all give such good advice.
I met my dp in December last year, he was, I thought, fantastic!
I moved house in June of this year, due to some problems where I was living, which he was very supportive about, and now looking back, quite pushy about.
We moved in together, which I know most would say is too soon, but, at the time, I thought was the best idea and he was all for it.
Move on to today, and I'm sat here thinking I've made a huge mistake!!!
I'm sure if I told any family or friends they would say I told you so!!
I actually think that my dp is a narcissist. I know that sounds quite a strong thing to say, but I've been reading up on it and it's mostly like reading about him.
He has to be centre of attention, talks over everybody, he's done everything bigger and better than anyone else, his opinion is the best, apparently got money and savings etc.
Sounds like a right dick I know, but I fell for it and now I'm stuck.
Financially I think he's lied to me, we never had a proper discussion about money, he would always change the subject once he had said his piece, when he got paid at the end of July he said they had messaged his wages up and was £900 down on what he should have so he could only give me half of what we had agreed, I said ok, but I've basically been supporting us this month with food etc, and he still wants his wine every night!!! He also defiantly drinks too much.
yesterday he said, that his 15 year old daughter would be better off living with us (my youngest dd is 12 and lives with me) we are collecting her today to come and stay for week, the first time I will have met her properly!!!
He's soooo moody, tv has to be in his Chanel etc. I could go on there are so many things that piss me off!!! He also doesn't like it if I stand up to him now if I don't agree with what he's saying.
and now I've written it down, I think I know what I need to do!!
Be good to hear what you all think?
Thanks x

OP posts:
MarianaMoatedGrange · 19/08/2019 09:29

Get out as soon as you can. You have been love bombed into moving in and are now expected to bankroll his life.

ItsInTheSpoon · 19/08/2019 09:33

Agree, start planning to move out, it will only get worse.... get your life back x

CodenameVillanelle · 19/08/2019 09:35

Move out and use your brain next time you think about moving your child in with a man you've known for half a year

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