Can someone explain this strange behaviour or did I say something wrong?

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We went on a few dates and he messaged me every day. Pleasant and polite messages but he didn't ask much about me. I felt I was asking all the questions. He told me he told his friends he speaks differently about me and he has this vibe it's going to work out. I decided to ask how he knew as we didn't know much about eachother (he knew nothing about me) and how do we really know at such at early stage. I hinted, I was open for him to get to know me more. He explained, of course he would love to know more. He would talk alot about future plans (again still not really indulging in conversation or asking me much about me). Then he started to send messages like, he feels different with me, he can't wait to spend cosy evenings by the fire together, he would love to kiss/cuddle me right now.....send love heart emogi's.
I felt a little uncomfortable and eased off with the messages (not completely) as I can't message someone that way who I hardly know and isn't showing an interest in anything to do with me. I was thinking to myself, it's better in person, I will wait to meet up again.
Anyway he then mentioned I seemed a little distant. I then decided to mention how I felt as it's important to. So I explained - We all want to be asked about things that are important to us, when we are, we enjoy sharing that information and it draws us closer to that person who is interested in us. I just felt he didn't ask much. I explained I have asked lots about him and his work his children, family, likes etc. I then said it is better to spend time together and get to know eachother and the messages were maybe too much future planning. With this he messaged back saying 'I don't have an answer for that, I guess I didn't pick up on the cues to ask you questions about your new job or your family - I feel odd about it all now, hope you meet someone that pick up on those cues'.
He then instantly blocked me on WhatsApp and blocked me on Instagram.
I am in complete shock. What is that all about?

Thankyou, I will read the link now.
It was strange, I'd ask questions and found it easy to ask. He would then follow with 'and yourself' as in asking the same question I did. He never asked anything without a prompt and then it was like he wasn't interested in my answer. The conversation would go back to him otherwise their were awkward silences. I thought it was nerves at first. He kept telling me how easy it was to talk to me and how comfortable he felt. He has finally met someone that 'gets him'. I would go home slightly confused by why he would feel this way as I'd hardly spoke about me, how would he know.
Reading all of your messages, it all makes sense now. Thankyou :)

He probably sees a lot of women and just prattles on about himself because he might get confused with which woman he’s with and make a mistake.

He sounds self absorbed and shallow. You dodged a bullet.

Easy to talk to = doesn't try to interrupt his self serving monologues.

Gets him = seems to be as fascinated by him as he is himself.

Self-absorbed knob.

I imagine there is a lot of this with so many brought up wrapped in cotton wool and everyone and everything revolved around them their entire lives. They've never had to think or care about anyone else.

You see that empty, girlfriend shaped space next to him?

Well he decided that you looked the part to fill it. He wasn't interested in you as a person, which is why he didn't ask about you.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of men like this. As long as you look good and they'd be happy to have sex with you, you'll do. They don't really care about the sort of person you are and once you show signs of being a person and not a passive object on their arm, or a passive audience for their monologues, they quickly lose interest and will block you because they weren't invested in you as a person at all.

Someone who was interested in you as a person wouldn't need to look for 'cues' that they should ask about you, they would want to find out all there is to know about you.

You sensed something was off, next time, you just need to react to these yourself rather than waiting for them to make the decision.

*speaking from experience!

I don’t think it sounds like he just wanted sex. Op said the texts were about cuddling in front of a cosy fire . He wanted the idea of a relationship but it didn’t occur to him to actually show an interest in the person he supposedly wanted to do it with.

You've had a lucky escape my ex was like this and I swear even though we were together 10yrs he knows very little about me. He has some image of me that he made up in his head. Even now he is being investigated for child abuse ect he still thinks I want him. I just have to speak to him and he thinks we are back together as thats what I want .

What a total weirdo.

So he just wanted to stuff you into the image of girlfriend / wife he has in his head. It doesn't actually matter who or what you are.

Going ott like that from the beginning is s big red flag.

I'm sorry you encountered such a strange man.

Oh wow, what a dick. No advice but I'd be shocked at that too.

Thanks everyone.
Now you have mentioned wrapped in cotton wool - he spoke alot about how much his mum still does for him. She would go in and clean his bedding. He said his dd's would shower and bake cakes at stupid o'clock but then mentioned his mum would come in and clean. He said not always for him but she controls the cleanliness of his dd's rooms etc. Not sure if that's wrapped in cotton wool or just a helpful mum/Nan.
Every message I'm reading here puts every conversation or time spent with him into perspective. I couldn't make sense of my inner feelings from the get go. I shouldn't of ignored it. I was questioning it however. I guess that's why I pulled him up on it. His reaction just proved everything I was feeling (but didn't understand until posting here).

OP he sounds very similar to the guy I just finished with. He would also say "and you?" rather than asking me a specific question although he talked a LOT and I could hardly get a word in edgeways. I put it down to nerves and he also said he talks a lot due to nerves. That is fine, but not if its about themselves the whole time.
He didn't have kids and I have 2 (who are with me most of the time) and I think in 10 weeks he asked 1 question about them. If I ever sent a photo of them, he would always say "aww bless" and that was it!
My ex told me he had an abusive mum though, which is common for narcissists. I suspect being smothered by a mother also has a bad effect though.
I knew there was something 'not right' about my ex too and I genuinely thought I just wasn't feeling it. I do believe now, in hindsight, it was my gut instincts telling me!

I agree with the previous poster who said him blocking you instantly is a massive red flag. The man can't take feedback and will not tolerate you having your own opinions. And he needed "cues" from you to remind him to ask you about yourself?? A prize twunt in other words. You deserve better op!

He was 'future faking'. Trying to reel you in with ideas of what it would be like to be in a relationship with him - all that talk of cuddling by the fire (when what he really meant was 'having sex', he just thought that women would rather hear 'I want to sit and cuddle you' rather than 'I want to have lots of sex with you'.)

He never intended any of it. I would take any money that he would have slept with you, orchestrated an argument, and blocked you anyway.

Thankyou all so so much. This was playing on my mind as it was so strange. It was just so out of the blue, especially because he was messaging so politely right up until my message re my feelings. An instant change in behaviour and I couldn't even reply as I was blocked. I wish I was able to say how I feel right now.
I feel better reading these messages. It's made me feel like I have dodged something that probably would have become worse.
Crappyday2018 - you did good to last the 10 weeks. We make excuses, it's nerves, it's this, it's that even though there is a niggle telling us different. It does take a few dates to realise and listen to your inner feelings of doubt. In my experience, I just found it so so strange in the instant change in behaviour, almost like a tantrum. I was in complete shock and felt a bit rubbish. It's always difficult to understand how people can behave this way. I wonder if I will ever find someone genuine. Its definitely true, we learn something new everytime we meet someone. Dating is hard work!

Dodged a bullet OP. Some men feel entitled just because they sent a few emojis.you don't know the guy. If he cared he'd be taking you out on dates and getting to know you. Turns out he just wanted phone fodder.