Advice please - am I over reacting??

[kittypower]

I am due to give birth in 2 weeks now and am having a row with DH - he has a good job which pays well and is near home. A friend of his has just starting work for an internet start up company and to cut a long story short they want DH to be involved to they want him to work for them for 5 hours a week, this would all be outside his normal job, so evenings or weekend I guess. My argument is that I want him home as much as possible to help with new baby etc as I'm getting very nervous about this massive new life change about to start. He says that he has can do after I have gone to bed etc - it seems a bit more trivial now that I have written it down, but it is just really upsetting me. I expected him to want to rush home after work to be with the baby and me the whole time and not take on more work. Feels like he will be waiting for us to go to bed so he can get on with the work. Am i over reacting do you think. I can't stop crying over this - it is really upsetting me
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You are bound to be upset over this, and I was exactly the same when I was due with dd. My dp is a plumber and works all the hours god sends. However, if he has to work later after hours, he does this when dd is in bed. I then get to watch the TV
Appreciate, yours will be a new born, but all they do is sleep and eat anyway
5 hours a week is not really a lot now is it??
Maybe ask him to give it a try and if it too much for you agree that he will give it up.
HTH Good luck with your birth etc xx

Tell him to make his decision 2 weeks after the baby is born. Seriously.

You are over reacting just the tinsiest bit, but at 38 weeks pregnant EVERYONE is a sobbing mess, so you are really being as rational as can be expected.

I think you are over reacting a tad. It's more to do with your confidence- or lack of it- as a new mum that's the issue rather than your husband working a few extra hours a week.
My suggestion is that he has a frank talk with the company and says exactly how many hours he is willing to do, and how that will fit in with your lifestyle. If it's an hour a day, or a few hours at a weekend, that's nothing - but maybe he could say that he won't start until the baby is about 6 weeks old? he may well be more tired than he thinks with all those sleepless nights!

thank you - I had a feeling I was over reacting, but it seemed to have turned into a really big deal in my mind and it was really upsetting me. I kind of had this image of new dads wanting to spend every minute with the baby and it felt like mine was doing the opposite!!! I'll try and stop sulking now and be more friendly to him!!!
Thanks girls
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