Too many options

[TooOldForThis67]

Does anyone else suffer from too many options? I am totally not being showy or whatever. I have a string of dates waiting in the sidelines knowing that I'm seeing someone. Obviously they dont know they are the only one. To be honest, it makes things difficult. Anyone?

Sorry! Tried to post as name change. Major cringe!

What is difficult on focussing on one person at a time? If it difficult, then you need to be honest with yourself and them.

Don’t string people along.

Are in an exclusive relationship?

If you are, It's really not that difficult. They arent options surely?

I think I know what you mean. Lots of matches on OLD and therefore lots of chats/requests for dates and you can't keep up?
I had this to an extent when I was OLD. I ended up going on 4 different dates in a week and was finding the whole thing really stressful.
The key is to be a bit more discerning. Swipe right on less people to start with, then you'll have less matches. Pick one or two people to chat with for a week or so. Then go on a couple of dates if you get that far with the chatting. If neither of those work out, go back, do some more swiping, rinse and repeat!
Don't worry about trying to chat to everyone if you're getting lots of matches and chats. You're in the fortunate position that you can be really picky!
Good luck with it, it's hard work! I've done it three times now, but this time I think I've found a keeper!

Oh tooold I thought you were all loved up. What happened there?

Obviously they dont know they are the only one and how do you know they are not all doing the same?
I wouldn't over-analyse things or worry about it. It might feel a bit stressful having a few on the go at once but it probably won't take long to whittle them down.

The best option is to grow the fuck up. You’ve been fucking Mr Wow around (and fucking others) since you met him over a year ago. Give the guy a break, he deserves so so much better.

OP what is it you want from this thread?
Because from what I can gather, it's almost as though you are saying 'oh my god....so many men want to date me, it's not mu fault I want to / have cheated'
If you want to date loads of men, do it.

Just make sure the man who you are seeing knows you arent exclusive. Otherwise you are being very horrible to the man you are seeing.

View name change fail I am not sure the op will be back...... under this name anyway!!!

Nope, I own this. Total fail. I've finished with them all. Feel much better, feel I have my life back. It really isn't fun when you are getting attention that's not sincere. I'm gullible. I'll own it and live with it. So dont mock me, dont even feel sorry for me. Just do one.

Just do one

What a horrible thing to say. If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen.

Honey you are so far up your own arse it sounds like you did all those men a big favour!

Just to clarify, all the men I've dated have been users, stringing me along for their own means. I've taken it all too seriously and been too nice, too accepting, too accommodating. It probably makes me a fool. I own it and accept it. Critise me all you want. I can't feel any worse than I do right now. Thanks to those that understood, much appreciated.

You can't backtrack now to make yourself look better.
If you knew all these men were users (i.e. weren't really interested in you) then you can't complain you had too many options - in fact you had no options at all!

Probably most of the men you were seeing were doing the same as you. Keeping their options open. It is what it is.

If all the men you dated are users, then it shouldnt have taken this thread with a name fail, for you to ditch them.

If all the men you have dated are user, have you ditched the one you are seeing as well.

In fairness, as pp said, they were keeping their options open. As you were.

Maybe you need to take some time out of dating.

Yesterday morning, you saw these man as options and were quite into having all these options. Yesterday morning it felt good to you, now you say it doesnt.

That shows you dont really understand what makes you happy longterm.

Well thats the first time i’ve heard you call mr Wow as looser. And frankly you have treated him far far far worse than he has ever treated you going by your past posts. If anyone’s the loser I’m afraid its you. Having read you posts under this and you old user name for what 18 months, I’ve long come to the conclusion some decent therapy might really help you. If not - 12 months off the apps so you have time to reflect might help. But that won’t happen as your validation comes from seeking sex with men

tooold come home!

tooold just echoing cassettes see you on the other side and tell us whats happening