My partner can be so grumpy and moody I feel like his mood so quickly. He does have good points being with him I know his stable good with he’s money, good at his job, and faithful and loves our son but the bad are outweighing the good ...If we fall out he will try and be funny with me for days, grumpy and moody about the house and doesn’t hardly speak to me and starts picking at me for things around the house and other stuff even though I always clean and tidy up I like to keep a nice home but he still finds fault or if it’s not his way of doing things. Some days when his in a good mood he will compliment the amount of stuff I do for him and our ds but on his moody days he will pick at me and it gets me down.
..Not long after having our ds I still got about cleaning cooking and looking after my son on night feeds and what mum’s do I never once asked him to help me like night feeds or getting up with our son in the mornings even on his days off I don’t because he will make out his had a hard week! What does do my head in is he can get up for fitness classes and football.. he works full time and his tired and not happy with his job and I’m on maternity so basically I should do it which I understand to a degree he works hard to do it but now I’m off maternity and I work part time he still says your only part time and I’m full time which drilled into my head maybe his right but when I work a night shift he still gets up for his fitness class and I’m left shattered out!
I use his car but every time I’ve used it he gets in and he inspects it and starts wiping everywhere with his hand making out it’s grubby although to me it’s with the odd bit of hair and dust and makes me feel uncomfortable and he starts going on at me ‘there’s hair there have you wiped the dash down there’s a finger print there have you shaken the mats recently??’ other people have complimented how immaculate the car is it makes me feel like I’m walking on eggshells and I’ve found myself trying to clean it every time I’ve used it and worrying if anyone’s got in and made it dirty. He told me today to go and buy wipes and wipe it every time I’ve used it! I know his been in the army and he say his quite particular with how he wants things he went mad at me at 3 am in the morning when me and ds was sleeping because I left the hoover out after cleaning..If we fall out he can’t just say what he needs to say and we move on if he has an issue he brings it up in abrupt way which causes me to get my back up and I tell him not to speak to me that way there has been times I’ve flipped out and had a go back and in some way then he turns it on me for shouting! If I bring something up I don’t like he will get grumpy about it. The other day he asked his mum to have our ds last minute she said she couldn’t have him in the morning and had made plans with her hairdresser to do her hair and he told her well your grandsons more important and you should rearrange so it caused an atmosphere with he’s mum and he ended up getting up telling her to shut up and pushing the door shut! I felt embarrassed. Can someone give me advice?