Divorcing: when to start dating again

[4happyhours]

Over a year ago he told me he wasn’t ‘in love’ with me.
Anyway, long story short, found out he was in a new relationship with a soppy dippy tart from work; gave him time (six months, as that’s the deadline to divorce for adultery) to sort that out and kick it into space and he didn’t so I’m in the middle of divorce proceedings. Decree Nisi in process; hearing to pass that is end of month. Should go through as he’s admitted adultery.
My gut feels I should wait until decree absolute is in my hands before I date anyone. It’s kind of taking the moral high ground. But it’s been a bloody long time since I felt like someone wanted to get jiggy with me and I’m feeling like I need that kind of a boost.
Any thoughts? Any experiences?
Thanks
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To add:
Moved around the other side of the M25 with my two teens.
Been married since 1999!
Don’t want to put my kids (18 and 14) in awkward positions.

Personally I was dating 24 hours after discovering the affair. What's good for the goose etc. I loved it. Good company, compliments, laughing, joking. having fun. It felt good. I wasn't promiscuous. Learned loads of stuff. Helped me realise what I wanted out of life, relationships in the future.
12 years on and I'm single, solvent, independent and have my friends and lovers.

Never been happier.

Go girl!
Just feeling like I owe it to the kids to wait for the paperwork to come through and like I’d be as base as him if I dated sooner. Which is not at all to judge anyone who got back in the saddle sooner, just been getting through the last year by setting myself little targets, but feel like this one might be somewhat negotiable ...

I waited till my divorce was complete, but meet my DP before his finished. I don't really think it matters impress it bothers you personally.

@CircleCircleUnderOver sorry what did you mean, what did you meet DP?
I’m fine to wait for now, but starting - now I’ve moved to a new area - to want a bit of excitement!!

Sorry it didn't word very well. I didn't start dating until my divorce was complete, but when I met my DP his divorce was still going through.

If his had been simple like mine was it would've completed well before we meet but his ex was dragging it out and contesting the financial settlement.

Do what feels right for you. I was with my ex husband 11 years (only married a year when he came home and told me he no longer loved me) he had moved in with someone else even before divorce proceedings had started .. wouldn’t file incase “he changed his mind” so I filed 4 months after he left.. I met someone else about 9 months after he left (I wasn’t looking it just kinda happened) and I started dating before the divorce was finalised (mine took 10 months as the court had a delay!!) I actually bought my ex out of the property we shared (I’d put the deposit in and decorated it how I wanted it but because we were married he was entitled to half the equity (ouch!)) I did however wait for the house to be solely in my name before allowing my new partner to come over.. I don’t really know why, just felt “right” x

I met someone during my divorce but it/Iwasnt great. He was lovely but I always kept him at arms length and I was viscous to him at times. I didn't mean to be but I wasnt emotionally ready to be with someone so soon. I was hurting and took it out on him. We lasted about 6 months til I finally pulled the plug. After that I stayed single for 3 years. Dated and had fun until I met my current dp. We have been together 3 years and marry next year.

I started dating a month after splitting with ex husband. However it had been an abusive loveless existence for over 8 years.

Im still very happily with the person I started dating 6 years down the line.

As long as you're emotionally ready then start dating when you want. Your kids don't need to know and shouldn't involve them. Moral high ground - there isn't one. You've split up so you can date. He cheatsd and you're divorcing.