Loose vag ?

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My two exs said I had a loose vag - not in such crass terms, but one asked if I could tighten my vagina during sex, grip onto his penis, and the one before said that once he was in, my vagina would open like a flower. I know both were suggesting my vagina was loose. I have never given birth. Could I really be that loose? I have started k exercises. I am mid 30s.

Just as penises come in different shapes and dimensions so too do vagina's. The Kama Sutra says something to the effect of let the mice go with the mice, the bull with the cow, and the horse with the mare — and then goes into more detail about which match ups are more and less ideal. You gotta be geometrically complimentary enough lol. Though maybe you were for the first guy mentioned but he just wanted a little extra squeeze? Perhaps best to treat this rhetorically but did they feel small for you? Kegels are a great exercise for the general health of that area regardless of one's sex, but in terms of tightness I don't think you have much to worry about if the sex is mutually good.

They might have just not been the right shape for you.

"Tightness" of undercarriage isnt always good for women... orgasm requires you to relax your pelvic floor. That's why when you're gripping a man with your internal muscles, you're less likely to orgasm. Also women who have an overly strong pelvic floor can suffer bad birth injuries / very long labours.

You don't need to change your body because of the comments of two men. There are 3.5 billion other men in the world ffs!

Op I've noticed so many threads from you on here and they tend to all have the subtext that you feel you arent good enough/ are feeling hopeless. Are you getting rl support?

They might just have had small dicks.

PickAChew One of them certainly did...

Some men are also more used to their own very tight grip.

PickAChew and younger women?

Sorry if TMI but since having 2 children I'm much looser and myself and DH prefer it I was REALLY tight before and had to be dripping wet for him to be able to get it in comfortably which obviously included long foreplay etc (which sometimes we just couldn't be arsed with and would be happy with a quickie lol) So its not always ideal being 'tight' ... I actually think these men were being very rude... most blokes would be happy with any vag and it wouldn't occur to them ! Just ignore and move on.

Haha I have no problem with being dripping wet from the get go! Sorry also if TMI!

OP 😂. They probably were so used to the tight grip from pleasuring themselves that they had forgotten what having actual sex was like.

I used to find that with men that had been single for a while before I met them.

Imagine you had turned and said to them 'please grow your penis'?

There isn't a lot you can do down below other than find a man that hasn't wanked himself into oblivion to the point nothing but a hard grip from a hand will do the job!

Oh - read the title as loose veg and thought, what a good idea, no plastic packaging

They might just have had small dicks

Sounds about right!!

No 2 people have the same body shape
Plenty of posts about ‘does size matter’
Hell not so long ago the super fluffy dating thread had several pages about ‘he’s 6ft 3 and in proportion 😍 So i am happy xxxxx

So maybe you have a big vag and need someone with a big cock. Lets face itv if single finger feels full you dont want a man with the cock the size of a forearm!

Porn-related death grip!

I don't think I have a big vag. Maybe my tightness has gone with age? I am very slim and toned and work out a lot, eg, not overweight which I know can weaken the area.

External body shape has nothing to do with it really.

I am male. Many many years ago I slept with someone who was 5ft 2 and size 6. Her ex had a 9 inch cock. I didn't measure up and she didn’t really hide the fact so i get the humiliation that maybe you are not enough.

But we are all different and its a matter of compatibility. These days i just think that most women will think I’m great and some will think i’m great but could be bigger !!

Dont let the fuckers get you down!

Does the sex feel good for you?

If you didn’t loosen during sex you would feel uncomfortable.

PS: J 2 exes? Clearly 2 of the wrong type! Rude, and do not understand women’s bodies! I bet you the next person you lead to Chateau Toffeeapple will be different! Enjoy it when it happens.

Loving the body-shaming in relation to penis size here.

Also the ever-tired myth of 'death-grip'.

They were rude.
Probably had a death grip and vienna sausages

Also the ever-tired myth of 'death-grip

Indeed

The way it gets trotted out as a reason for all male sexual performance issues with the people suggesting it thinking they are being really insightful.

Tell them that the silver lining is that they will save money forking out on KY!! How rude of them!

Sex is supposed to be a fun activity to do together. If one of you needs to be a certain size or needs to perform in some way so the other has a better time than the balance is gone and you'd be better off dumping them.

OP, the pelvic floor does lose tone with age, but if you work out a lot, your pelvic floor is probably fine - people who work out lots have to have a decent pelvic floor otherwise they would be leaking wee when they lifted weights or did plyo - I know because my pelvic floor has strengthened naturally since becoming more fit.

Having an overly strong pelvic floor certainly meant I had a prolonged labour and severe trauma - 3 episiotomies - to get the baby out. So I lost tone after giving birth, for a good few years. But it was never an issue, because during sex you are contracting onto something, rather than onto yourself, if you see what I mean.

Gripping a penis with your vagina rhythmically is something that can be exciting for both partners - it's an exaggeration of the 'normal' vaginal contractions during sex - did that one ex maybe mean that? So more of a suggestion of something to try than a comment on your vagina?

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