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Hot and Cold

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Traceybarlow1 · 16/08/2019 18:26

Just reflecting over my past dating experiences and wanted to know what you would call this type of behaviour.

Some days would be over you like a rash then wouldn't hear from them for like days or weeks

Never define the relationship status despite dating for 3 months

Didn't like the fact i was independent and had my own interests

Told me to only ring them at certain times

Was upset once and they just sat there and had a smirk on their face. Didn't offer me a cuddle or anything. They were just stone cold.

Couldn't put themselves in other peoples shoes

Looked down on others

Highly judgemental of anyone who lead a different lifestyle to them

They couldn't bear to be wrong

Said i was highly strung (looking back i always felt anxious in their company) Everyone that knows me on a close basis tells me i am not

Anyway these were just some examples but my point is the experience with this man left me feeling i was not good enough, felt insecure and generally miserable.

I watch a lot of Kati Morton Youtube videos and it helped me realise i was dating a man who was emotionally unavailable. I just wondered if their was a proper term for this hot and cold behaviour?

Have healed from this relationship as was 3 years ago but working on how not to attract these types ever again.

OP posts:
Frenchfemme · 16/08/2019 18:37

Unpleasant controlling arsehole? Well done for breaking free and realising it was him not you!

Traceybarlow1 · 16/08/2019 18:56

@Frenchfemme Thanks! I think controlling arsehole sums him up best.

OP posts:
AvengerDanvers95 · 16/08/2019 18:57

I was going for Dickhead.

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