Some of you may remember me from the ‘inlaws’ thread back in the month of June - the inlaws visited for 6 weeks to see their new grandson basically and it was well, a very long 6 weeks to put it lightly.
Anyhow, they went back end of June and OH is being a complete pain the arse since they have left after shit hit the fan.
Unsure how to deal with him and it to be honest.
Today I messaged him to ask where he had put the coffee since there was less than half a pack left - he replied asking why and said it’s behind the jars in the cupboard but ‘don’t have it all’. Yes I drink coffee but when I use it up I’ll replace it when I go shop so this really annoyed me.
Following on from that I said baby needs some must haves for autumn winter & he replied saying he only has £46 to his name and after the food shop he will have to wait for a few weeks before buying any thing for the baby.
I said we’ll talk when he gets back from work since things are misconstrued over text.
To give you some background info - he relocated a few years ago and has a good job & I know for sure he does not have only £46 to his name. We are in a very good position financially and have very small outgoings overall.
Recently I said i wanted to have a fire place fitted in as it does get cold during the winter even with the radiators on sometimes & his first response was we don’t need it. We have brought a property and in all honesty we haven’t had any major work done to it as we have been lucky with it and it’s in good condition apart from of course we deco the way we wanted etc etc.
He moaned that he does most of the food shopping which is correct he did when I was pregnant because frankly the first trimester was dreadful but I definately did my share after the first trimester & following birth I didn’t go out as much for a while to shops as I was healing & he stills thinks I don’t do enough though I even offered to give him cash towards food bills and all other bills are down the middle.
I’m flabbergasted at his behaviour in all honesty and have no idea how to deal with it all & his picking at small things even though we have been having issues because of bigger things in the relationship.
Even though I was still healing from
Birth I started back in my business a month after birth and have been working taking jobs as much as possible so that I’m still paying my way & do have part time maternity pay etc so I don’t feel he’s had to deal with any extra finances to be honest other than baby stuff which I’ve also been paying for.
Any ideas how to deal with it all?