Which OLD site did you use and was it successful?

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Basically as the title says!

I think it's about time to dip my toe into the dating world but I have no idea where to begin.

Thanks

I had no hang ups at all about putting a picture up as I wouldn't talk to anyone without one.

When I had my first date with my now fiancé I discovered his profile picture was nothing like how he looks - he was attractive in his picture but in real life was just Wow! As soon as I saw him I though well that's me screwed I'll never see him again (I've had more than my fair share of dating disasters so I thought that because he was so perfect I wouldn't see him again) so I thought I'm just going to be completely my loopy self and not bother with all that first date hesitant politeness - it turned out that how he knew I was prefect for him, he said I was just so happy and honest.

Fifteen months after our first date we were engaged with our wedding planned for six months after that (now it's less than five weeks away!!).

I’m also wondering about the picture thing? I really wouldn’t want any one in local area or on the school run seeing me, Is there a way to filter who sees your profile, I think someone mentioned it on this thread?

Match.com. We have been together for 10 years, married for 6 and adopted two children last year.

Had to kiss a few frogs. I’m sure OLD has changed a lot over the last 10 years, but I would just say to trust your instincts. I think I avoided a few of the stranger ones by listening to that little voice inside.

POF for me too. As others have said online dating is the norm now. I think you have to have a photo. There's so many people on it. No photo is an easy way to filter people out.

So what if people see you? If they see it's because they're on the site too. It's no big deal. I saw a dad from school on there, an ex, someone I work with and someone that works in my favourite kebab shop.

You need to have a bit of a thick skin. People just disappear. Some people want someone to come round for sex. And some use fake photos. But in a weird way online dating built my confidence up after a bad relationship.

I guess I would feel embarrassed that they see me on there looking for a partner, even though they are aswell so it doesn’t make any sense. I wouldn’t date a local so I would rather not be seen by any I suppose.

They're all awful! Tried many of them and all so frustrating and depressing.

I'm about to be single and if I ever feel the need for a partner again I won't be going back to OLD

Met my DH on POF , had several nice dates too from match .

After a few too many glasses of red myself and a friend made profiles on Plenty of Fish

5 years later i am about to get married to a wonderful man, we have a 14 month old DS and I'm 13 weeks pregnant with our 2nd child

Maybe that's what I need to do and have one too many glasses of alcohol. Shouldn't take much as I don't usually drink.

Hmm! Is it worth the hangover though?

I used Match.com, but the Harmony version where you do an extended personality test (no idea if that option still exists) - you paid slightly more for it. Just about to celebrate 10 years of us (and one DS too).

I've met someone on POF. Been together over a year now. But you just need to be aware there are a lot of married men/ undesirable types on there and once you've filtered them out just see it as fun and have a chat with different men and see where things go. Might take a while or you might meet someone quickly.

Tinder- now married with a baby so pretty successful. Did have to wade through a fair few frogs first though...

Eharmony. Met up with the first person they matched me with and we've been together 10 years, married for 6 years with 2 DC. Yes definitely put photos up. If you don't you'll get people skipping over your profile because they'll think there's something you're trying to hide (ie you're already married or something) or that you can't be arsed. So what if someone recognises you? There's no shame in it (as long as you're single!) Good luck!

Fetlife

Doh, still not plucked up courage to do it! -gotdrunkenoughtodo--it-

or even to get a strike through! oops!!!

Met my partner in bumble couldn't be happier. You need a tough skin and be prepared for many different mind games. I gave up many a time but went back as this is the way most people meet nowadays so I wouldn't worry about anyone seeing you there they are there for the same results. Good luck

Also check out the thread here about online dating and read and re read the rules

Tinder after trying POF and Zoosk. Been together 2 years and he is lovely. However you will come across some weird and wonderful individuals and it is a real eye opener .

All I would say is stick to your boundaries. Go with your gut instinct. Be wary of anyone who suggests moving to KIK or email straight away (KIK for married men and e-mail for scammers wanting money). And have a little fun .

Eharmony. Been married five years with two children. He was the first person I met up with on there. I’d tried match but not really much luck.

Plenty of fish. Married 5 years with a 2 year old DS 🙂