Pregnant and now single

[laylarebekah]

So the short of it is I got pregnant very early into a new relationship. Obviously that has added stress and pressure for us to be together. This led to our relationship revolving around the pregnancy as I've been quite ill. Hardly the romantic honeymoon period!
Last night baby's dad has called the relationship off. I can't blame him as he shouldn't feel he should be with me just for the baby but the fact is I loved him.
I'm now facing being a single mum, (with his support), but I just feel so vulnerable and lonely; and very scared.
Any advice of how the hell I carry on or handle this would be appreciated as I'm just a bit of a mess right now.

Just bumping this thread for you, @laylarebekah.

So sorry you're going through such a tough time.

We're also going to move this over to our Relationships topic - there should be a bit more traffic there.

I'm sorry OP, unfortunately I don't have much useful advice but didn't want to read and run.

I know you probably feel awful right now but these things always get better with time. It sounds like he wants to be involved which is really positive. For now, do you have any family or friends you can lean on for support?

I'm so sorry op XXX if I was you I will tell him what u feel. And ask him what he thinks that needs to change etc to make things work. You are having a child together... All the best

I'm really sorry OP. Did he say why he was calling it off? I wonder if it's something you might be able to resolve together, through couples therapy for example. Have you suggested this to him, or told him you are willing to work on this?

No one will know if the two of you will get back together but I think the best thing to do is assume that you will be a single parent and make arrangements now. You need to have a conversation with the father and ask him what exactly he sees his role being and how much he is going to contribute financially so that you don't find yourself without the support you need. You need to sort out things like how often he will see the child, if he will or can change his working hours to help with childcare, if he will be able to do nursery drop off or pickups, if the child will stay overnight at his place sometimes to give you a break, if he will go out to buy nappies etc if you can't. Fibd out the answeres to these questions now and any other that occur to you and figure out who you can depend on to do these things if he isn't prepared to.

Well he is saying it's definitely over so I need to start relooking at all my plans etc as a single mum now.
He still wants to be hands on and do all he can but he lives about an hour away from me now.
I have lots of friends and family around for support. It's just not the same as a partner is it 🤷‍♀️

Big hugs XXX just try to focus in your health n the baby XXX soon u will meet him or her. You can do it

Happened to me. He changed his mind so don’t pin your hopes on it, he also said he would be involved and now isn’t at all. Just be prepared that you will probably end up doing it alone.

Thanks! Yes I'm going to plan for just me and baby (a girl) in case he lets us down. Thanks everyone. I know there are so many women who do it alone so I'm in good company