Hello, I just need a friendly ear

[JoannaS83]

This is going to be long.. Sorry!

So I met my partner 4 years ago, I fell madly in love with him blah blah.. I have 2 dd from a previous relationship 14 +17 I have been a single parent.
2013 I had stage 1a cervical cancer, I had a letz and then a cone biopsy.
In 2017 I had a cervical ectopic pregnancy, and then 3 months later a miscarriage. Me and my partner continued to try. Low and behold we found out a couple of weeks ago I am expecting. As you can imagine, we were over the moon! Or so I thought. It has been mentioned that I will potentially need a trans abdominal stitch. This is scaring me somewhat.
I've just found out my partner is on dating sites. Like wtf!?
Like what do I do?
So now I am facing the prospect of being a single parent again. I honestly just give up right now :(

I don't really have a big support network if any support at all. I'm trying to hold it together as I don't want my girls knowing, do you ever feel like everything is stacked against you?

Thanks for reading

Jo x

I'm so sorry OP, what a total dick. Have you confronted him yet? Do you have any evidence of him cheating.
Usually in these situations, people will tell you to gather more evidence before saying anything. I'm, sure he will give you the usual script of "I was never actually going to meet anyone", "It was just an ego boost" so prepare yourself for that. Its really up to you what you do about this but he clearly cannot be trusted. I would think very carefully about having a future with this man.

How did you find out he was on dating sites?! ☹️

That's really shit. Does he know that you know? You will have to make a decision on this pregnancy, if you want to go ahead - it does not seem like he can be counted on.

Saw the notification on his phone a week or so ago.. So I searched online for notifications similar, then downloaded the app and he was on there 😂

I'd also become suspicious because I was helping him sort his car insurance last week and noticed a pof email notification on his social bit of Gmail.. His excuse, I deleted the app but I still get emails...

I've confronted him all be it angrily and told him to get f*ed he's not apologized nothing. Just blocked me on everything and gone stone cold silent. I'm so mad at this situation. There's so much stuff going on and he's just been completely selfish. @crappyday2018
@mordecaithomas

That's the thing; I've so wanted this. But the thought of being a single parent to 2 teenagers and a new born scares the hell out of me. It's like going back to square one all over again. This was always my last chance.

Seriously think about this pregnancy OP. This man cannot be relied about to be a father. He is an awful partner. For god sake do not take him back.

No, I won't be.
It's horrible. I'm just hoping I'll miscarry now. I've wanted this baby for so long. All those hopes and dreams and plans we had.
Gone.