Does size matter?

[Notverycreatiive]

So... Does the size of a diamond in an engagement ring matter? I love my partner to bits and she's not materialistic in the slightest, I believe I could purpose with a haribo ring and she'd be over the moon.. however, I have quite bad anxiety and always worry what other people will think.. I can't help it, and I don't want her friends or work colleagues to think I've skimped or that I mustn't really care? I dunno, does anyone really care? Is it ever the topic of conversation?

Next up, the proposal.. I'd love to make a big grand gesture and be super romantic and in my head I can be, I just can't ever make it happen irl.

Again, I then worry that when someone asks how I proposed, the story won't be very exciting for her.

I know she is crazy about me and she honestly wouldn't mind how or with what it was done with, she has a beautiful soul, but I'm always worried about how people will perceive it.

She's visiting her family at the end of the month so I really want to do it before she goes back, I know her family would be very happy with the news too!

Any advice or personal experiences will be very welcomed.

I wouldn't want to choose my ring, id like whatever he thought was nice. I chose my ring from my first marriage and I never felt it was anything special because I had chosen it and always felt as he couldn't be bothered to put the effort into getting anything. My situation is different as we have both been married previously and it is different second time round and even more special than ever already so what ever my bf wanted I would be over the moon with myself.

You'll be spending a lot of money on the ring regardless so you want the best for your money. I'm not a fan of the huge rocks, they're a bit ott but this is your proposal, you want to get something you'll be proud of.

Have you had a look at many side by side? Quality is important. There's ways to get more for your money.
It's hard to tell on the finger what colour the diamond is, I'd say you could go down to a G in colour. Also looking at ones that are very slightly or even slightly included (depending where the inclusion is) will get you more carat for your money. If you go for a D, flawless you'll be sacrificing a lot of diamond.

The proposal depends on the girl. You want to make it something special, that she can remember. Maybe somewhere scenic? I'd avoid going for anything too showy unless you know that's what she wants.

Don't think the OP liked our suggestions

Size doesn't matter op.

My boyfriend proposed on Christmas morning. There was a massive box under the tree and I mean massive and inside were lots of smaller wrapped boxes. I couldn't believe it as previously he would say marriage was not for him.

A public proposal would have been horrific for me. Do you know the kind of proposal she would like?

Would love to hear what OP decides to do, keep us informed OP

What else does she like? What are her values? You say she's not materialistic, how does she feel about diamonds generally? Would she prefer an ethically sourced one?

It's really hard to tell what sort of proposal she would consider romantic.
What one person thinks is amazing might be meh for another. the best advice without knowing more about her is to perhaps do some searching or different proposals and see the kind of vibe that you think ties in with who she is.

And try not to worry about what everyone else will think! This is between you and her - not her friends, family or collegaues.