I wrote a post a few days ago about my oh not helping with housework and refusing to listen to me and one of the lovely ladies on the thread suggested making a thread on this page.
We have 2 children age 2 and 1 and rent together and I think I've been at the end of my tether for a long time. He does bare minimum and refuses to talk about anything to do with the relationship his feelings or mine and his main line is that he's depressed. I bend over backwards helping him but he won't go to the doctors or do any of the suggestions that I give him. I care for him but he can be really mean and until I wrote the thread the other day about him not helping I wasn't even sure if I was being unreasonable because I've been made to feel this way.
I don't have a massive support network and if I broke up with him he'd go to stay with his parents over 100 miles away and I'd have to quit my jobs which I don't really want to do as he wouldn't consistently see the kids.
I've tried to break up with him in the past but he just packs his bags and starts dragging them out of the house before we can talk or cry and promise he'll go to the doctors and then never does and I just panick about hurting people and doing things on my own and it's too overwhelming.
I also have a massive issue with the sexual side of the relationship. I had bad pnd after my first and he cheated on me when I was 38 weeks at the time I thought he'd only arranged to meet them but later found out he'd slept with them as had taken a chlamydia test and then consequently every 4 or 5 months something will crop up. It'll never be physical just talking to people innapropriately. I have no trust in him and feel anxious even when I'm not actively angry at him. I don't have a sex drive and he constantly makes digs about 'getting none' I'm just at a loss of what to do