I met my partner 2 and 1/2 years ago and life was amazing with him. We got on so well and we did so much together. There are some problems and issues now though.
Sex was never our top priority in our relationship. In the beginning, at a guess we did it about 2/3 times a month. Since last year, there has been a slow decline. I put I'd down to life getting in the way and opposing schedules. This year and we had sex only once, back in January.
There has been many times during sexy times together where he has no problem gaining an erection. Sometimes I might give him a blow job but from there there's no sex whatsoever because he takes over with his hand. Many, many, many times. The man has sexual energy but its not for me, its not for vaginal sex with me, its for his hand.
Back in June, I was very busy, work and family issues and it was about 2-3 weeks when I got around to seeing my partner. He stayed the night with me and the most I got was getting dry humped in the middle of the night.
This is an issue for me. There's no sex between us. We are just back from a weeks long holiday where there was no sexual bonding between us at all.
To be quite honest, at this stage, I'm quite sick of this. He tells me he loves me all the time and he is affectionate and caring but there is no sexual chemistry between us any more.
There's a few other things. His calls. Sometimes if I'm busy, I might miss a call from him. Sometimes he will persist with calls and it's now bordering on obsessive. My mother even noticed. I was having breakfast one morning. It was a rushed breakfast. My phone rand but I had food in my mouth so I didn't pick up thinking I will phone him back after breakfast. By the time I was finished with breakfast there were 4/5 missed calls. My mother asked what's with all the calls? When I rang him back, he had nothing urgent whatsoever to tell me.
This nearly obsessive calls is a new thing from him. He was never like this in the beginning.
Something new,
When away on holidays, I googled something and directions but it was slow. I left my phone down on the table and went up to the counter to order something. I came back and I found him with my phone in his hand. What on earth was he doing with my phone in his hand? What was he looking for? Thankfully I have nothing to hide but I'm still not happy with that. I consider that to be an invasion of privacy akin to checking ones diary. I suspected he did it another time too when I left my phone on the table to go to the toilet.
So anyways there's a few issues here.
- dry sex life
- calls nearly bordering on obsessive
- checking my phone.
To be honest, I think this relationship is dying and I don't know if it's worth talking to him and trying to save it. There's other issues too. Like we traveled for about 13 hours straight for our holidays. The first thing I did was go for a shower and change from my clothes. It took him another day or maybe even two (I wasn't keeping track) for him to go into the shower. There's many nights when he goes to bed not even brushing his teeth. I don't know ifs he's aware of it himself but his gums are bleeding heavily. Waking in the mornings, there's staining on the pillow cases where he obviously drools.