I'm not sure what I'm supposed to be feeling right now - can someone help me understand this....

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I have been on my own for many years and dated lots. I can count on one hand the amount of men I actually felt attracted to whilst dating. Many times I have given up, lost hope. Then I have another go. Kinda lost all excitement for it. I have met one guy, last year. It was more attraction than actually a connection. I fancied him but didn't like him much. Learnt lots there. Since then, I date and feel nothing, absolutely nothing.
I have met a guy who appears to be lovely. Good job, own home, hands on dad, kind, good friends, close to his family. There wasn't fireworks when I met him but he's attractive. We have been out a few times and text every day. His text messages are how are you, how's your day, just general chit chat. He talks lots about his children (which is lovely) and not much else (other than what his plans are with his children, which of course is lovely). I love that hes a great dad. There is never any deep conversations. I have tried to get into deeper conversation. It's difficult sometimes via text messaging but when I'm with him, he's a gentleman but I feel it's me asking all the questions. He doesn't really know much about me. He has said he is excited about getting to know me but he doesn't really ask me anything. There has been opportunities for him to explore and ask. For example I'm starting a new job, my daughter is getting married, my children.....I can't explain it. I wonder is he listening to me? It's like he's quite robotic and doing and saying all the right things when I'm talking to him. I thought it might be nerves but not sure. Apparently he has told his friends that there is something different about me, we like the same things, and want the same 🤔 how has he gathered that as i feel i haven't really said much about me. Anyway, he has all the qualities of a potential partner (from what I can see so far). I have arranged to see him the weekend for a night out but I'm not excited. I honestly think I'm numb to all emotions now. It's actually making me feel nervy! I don't know why as he's nice!

Hi OP. I have actually found this with a couple of guys recently. I have just ended things with a guy I've been seeing for 10 weeks (for other reasons) but he was the same. He used to ask me what I like and dislike but never asked me anything of importance e.g. about my job or family. It was all general chit chat and things he liked.
I have no clue what this means but I've encountered it a couple of times and I don't like it to be frank.
My advice is to say something to him. See how he reacts. The worry is that he doesn't ask you cos he's not actually that interested.

he has all the qualities of a potential partner

I beg to differ. If he doesn't ask you questions now, when he barely knows you, I'd be concerned that he really won't ask about things when he does.

I guess I focus on that as one of the things that drives me nuts about my DH is that he never asks about things that are important to me, how things went at work if I had something big on, how poorly family members are doing etc. He's just not wired that way to think like that. And it drives me crazy. If I was looking for a partner again I'd want someone who asks a billion questions like I do.

Agree with @Needsome. He doesn’t have the main qualification to be a partner if he, right at the outset, doesn’t show the slightest curiosity about you or your life.

I can count on one hand the amount of men I actually felt attracted to whilst dating

Have you dated any women?

Not being snarky, I'm just saying before writing yourself off or consigning yourself to a lifetime of singleness (YAY!) consider that you may have a different romantic attachment.

(Or be single and awesome. There are loads of us, seriously.)

Thanks everyone.
I have been attracted to men but I just feel numb to the feelings now. Been single for a while and happy with my life. It took a while but I feel ok now on my own. One thing I do miss is when something needs fixing, it would be lovely to not have to YouTube it or pass it off as I need to pay my bills. Having someone take off the pressure would be nice but I have managed this long.
This mornings text message was how much he wanted to cuddle and kiss me. Ok, thats nice but I didn't wake up feeling that. Within a few meets he was making plans, we can do this together and that together etc. I then decided to pull him up on it and I said it would be nice to get to know you more, wouldn't you like to get to know me more before making those plans. He then says of course (but still hasn't asked anything unless I ask him and he says, and yourself) but I just have that feeling about you, it's different, I can tell we are going to be good together. My friends say I talk differently about you (this I question as I'm wondering what he talks about as he knows nothing). He says I have finally found someone who gets me. All I'm doing is being a decent human being. I have no clue if I get him, I don't know him enough.