Holiday hassle

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Does anybody else have a DH who turns into some sort of grumpy twat on holiday? Impatient. Shouting at the kids. Snapping at everything I say. Is this a normal man syndrome? I feel like I’m the referee and peacemaker all the time! Does anyone go on holiday with a DH and have a great fun laugh with no arguing? Just wondering if my family is abnormal!

My ex was like this. Part of the reason he is an ex!
Have you asked him why he seems stressed on holiday? Maybe leave him at home next year because its not worth the cost or hassle if no-one is enjoying it.

Most couples argue at least once on holiday, mainly about where to eat. But shouldn't be the majority of the time arguing no

I'm thinking it might because he's the sort of bloke who takes a few days to destress and as he's with his family rather than with work colleagues, it's an easy value to open and explode. Not great obviously but worth asking him?

Yep. Mine does this. He just doesn't like being out of routine. Drives me mad so we mostly holiday with family or freinds as he doesn't do it as much then! I think it's anxiety being away and learned behaviour from his family. Pisses me off as I loved family holidays as a kid and my dad really cheered up when away and we kids had a lovely time and I just wanted that memory for our kids. Which they just won't have.

My exH always did this - it makes me relieved to hear that he wasnt the only one, and sad that so many other families go through it. We never really did holidays because he seemed to hate them so much. Even if we went on a trip that he had arranged, he got stressy and angry, screaming and shouting at me before we left the house, etc. We had two separate holidays arranged with groups of friends, renting a big house together, etc, and he managed to scupper both trips so that we couldnt go. One of the trips was renting a huge gorgeous villa in Tuscany, which is one thing i had always, always wanted to do i was so gutted that we couldn't go.

After he left, i took DD to New York for a little "cheer up" holiday. No stress, no anxiety, no shouting. It was lovely.

Does anyone go on holiday with a DH and have a great fun laugh with no arguing?

We do! We have the best time imaginable without a single cross word. DH goes into super chill mode on holiday but I genuinely put that down to the fact that we don’t have any children (both childfree by choice). If we had kids I know he’d be a nightmare!

I called mine out on it when we weren't away eventually as trying to discuss when away just ended in rows. He's better now but still a bit grumpy but does make more of an effort these days. It's better now kids are older and argue less as well.

My dh is like this if we holiday in the UK. He just doesn't like it. My parents have a static caravan in wales that we can use for free whenever we want. But he hates it. I used to force him to go but the holuday would be ruined. So I take the children on my own now and we have a lovely time.
If we go abroad he is a lovely fun dad and really seems to relax

Dp does this on holidays and family outings. He loves holidays so its not that he's uncomfortable on them, he just has no patience and wants to be out and doing immediately and kids take time to get organised. And he's horrible at taking directions, its my fault if he misses a turn even if I clearly said he needed to change lanes and he refused too, then he gets pissy that I can't immediately give him new directions. It makes holidays so stressful.