WWYD?

[Fredsmum82]

Hi, so my 'DP' and I walked about going abroad with our 2 children (from different partners) next year. He wanted to go term time because it's cheaper and I don't want to and offered to pay extra to go in the holidays. Instead of compromising he booked it for him and his daughter to go alone. He's now angry at me for being angry at him and is suggesting I'm jealous of him taking his daughter abroad for the first time when all I wanted was a 'family' holiday :( there is some other stuff going on which means our relationship has been a bit strained and this has made pur argument bigger than it should of been! WWYD??

I would be asking myself if this was the kind of relationship that I wanted to be in. Being in a relationship means you work in a team with any big decisions that have to be made, it doesn’t seem like this happens here.

Wow!! I’m not sure I’d want to be in a relationship with a man like this... whatever happened to conversation and compromise. Sounds like you come way down the priority list

I’d be telling him to bigger off on holiday, and stay buggered off. Count your blessings and take your dc abroad on your own during the holidays. (My friend is a single parent and goes on ‘single parent holidays’ and loves it)

That isn't good. To not even discuss with you the possibility of separate holidays if you couldn't agree.
The fact he is angry at you tells me he knows he's in the wrong but won't admit it - he's deflecting this onto you.

He's since admitted he never wanted me and my DS to go - as its his DD first holiday abroad he wants it to be just them. He's moving out Monday as I've called it a day. I have to say it's not just because of this but also his behaviour :(
Thanks for your thoughts on this.
Tessie

Good for you OP

You have done the right thing. Hope it is all going well - think of the long run and not having to put up with such spiteful behaviour.