I don't know where to start. I've been married for 10 years plus and have two lovely dcs. Mu husband has changed though. He isn't the same man I married and I don't know what to do about it. My previous relationship was abusive so I know all about that, but I am starting to get the feeling that he his ebbing in that direction. It's little things. Undermining my self-confidence. I have had MH issues for a few years and he has been hugely supportive during that time, but now I feel (shakily) back on my feet he has started really talking down at me. I feel like such a failure. I can't keep the house clean enough for him. He expects me to go to the gym all the time to lose all the weight I gained through being on certain meds. I know I am overweight and not slim like when he married me but I am doing my best with dieting. I still suffer social anxiety and being a fat person in the gym does not help so I have found myself lying to him saying I have gone when I haven't as I couldn't face it. I'm not depressed anymore I'm miserable though.Yesterday we got back from holiday and he had a massive blow up and wouldn't speak to me for two hours(in front of the children) because he found some sweets hidden at the back of the cupboard that I give them as a Friday treat and some ice-cream in the freezer. He accused me of giving them sweets and ice-cream every day (which I don't) and said I was ruining their health. Actually, I try and cook nice homemade food for them, and then for him again when he gets back from work but he won't believe me.I have zero self esteem.I know it doesn't sound like much but I guess it's just a culmination of criticisms every day about how I should be doing things. Nothing is ever good enough. I dress oddly. I don't discipline the children, the house is a mess etc etc. Basically, I am not as neat and tidy as his mother. God it all sounds a bit pathetic I know but it's making me feel down and unnerved. I think he is turning into a bully. And my children can see it. Help?